Transcript 0:00 [upbeat music] Hey, my name is Donald Desrosier. I am the host of One Eleven Podcast, where we sit down with entrepreneurs and hear their new beginning stories. 0:15 We are starting a new series and I'm looking for 11, that's right, 11 different unconventional entrepreneurs that are doing things in a very different way, and I want to really strip down a- and embrace that authenticity that is in you. 0:31 If you are, uh, doing entrepreneurship in an unconventional way, I want to hear from you, and I'm only looking for 11 of you. 0:38 So wanna start this brand new series looking for 11 different unconventional entrepreneurs, founders that are doing amazing work. Hit me up in the DMs if that's you, and I would absolutely love to get you on the pod. 0:53 I wanna say thank you so much, Nina, uh, for coming on One Eleven Pod. I know you are a personal growth coach and, um, you absolutely love what you do and you have quite the story. 1:04 So why don't you introduce yourself and share us a little bit about you of, uh, why people should connect with you in the future. Thank you. Okay. Thanks, Don. Lovely. 1:13 Uh, my name is Nina Tara, and I'm a self-growth coach where I support women to stop over-functioning in relationships, help them reconnect to themselves so they can start living the life they deserve and want. 1:25 And I'm just gonna go right into sharing a little bit of my story. Okay? Please. Thank you. Thank you. It's 1989 and I- I'm at my parents' place and there's a knock at the door. 1:36 My father opens up the door with a big smile on his face as the boy and his family walk into, into our home to meet me. Me, 21, I'm in the kitchen making everyone chai tea like a good Indian girl, 1:53 as everyone sits at our dining room table to discuss if the boy is a suitable match for me. He had been scouted from a family member, and my father was eager to give me away. 2:06 I sat there across a table making small talk with a complete stranger that I should consider marrying. I don't remember much of the day, but that was the start of the process of my arranged marriage. 2:21 Fast-forward six months later, we got married. Within five years we have kids, and this is when my symptoms of depression, anxiety, stomach issues, and exhaustion began to be my new normal. 2:35 I remember being at home for an entire year, having to drag myself out of bed to bring my children to school, come back home after forcing myself to try to eat something, and then back to bed until it was time for me to pick them back up. 2:52 I was off for work over a year because my body was shutting down and I had no capacity. My husband would look at me, "Nina, it's all in your head," and said, "Pull yourself together." 3:06 I started going to a naturopath, doing coaching and everything I could to feel better, as I didn't know what was wrong with me. After a year or so, I started to feel better. 3:17 Assert my boundaries in my relationship with my husband, and I started working out more, having new hobbies, and I could tell he didn't like the changes I was making. 3:29 And after a while we stopped sleeping in the same bed. I married the wrong man, and I didn't want to be married anymore. 3:38 Now as I look back, my symptoms from over-functioning, people-pleasing, and putting myself last, I had little to no connection with who I really was or what I wanted until I did the inner work that changed everything. 3:53 And now today, I help women stop over-functioning in their relationships and re- reconnect to themselves so they can start living life on their terms. Awesome. I absolutely love that, Nina. 4:06 Thank you so much for the introduction. Um, I'd love to go back to your depression and your anxiety. And I, I, I'm a big believer in doing what you love to do, and I'm- Yeah... curious, like, were you able to, 4:25 were you able to find yourself? Like, I know it's so hard to become aware, especially of like, where is this depression coming from? Where is this anxiety? 4:32 So how long did it take you to rediscover yourself and, um- I mean-... 4:37 what did that really, what did that take from you to actually move in that direction back in that time when you were first, like, getting through that or, or struggling with that depression initially? 4:48 I'd love to hear more about that. So really, I, I had symptoms. I had s- lot of symptoms, anxiety, depression, stomach issues, which was later diagnosed irritable bowel syndrome. I had- Mm... insomnia for 20 years. 5:01 Um, I think it was... And I was searching for help in books, seminars, workshops, going to one modality to the other, and nothing was really working. 5:11 So it wasn't till 2006 where, you know, I really hit rock bottom and I was willing to try anything, you know? There's a saying, "When the student's ready, the teacher appears." Mm. 5:22 So I had a friend who connected with me to somebody. She goes, "You know, she, she deals with women's health." She was a health practitioner. "And why don't you go see her?" 5:30 So I remember it was July of 2006, I went to see her. And I don't know what happened. I guess she just, you know, she took a history of me and I guess whatever she did or she had, 5:43 she could see my story and connect to it and said, "Yeah, I can help you and support you, but it's going to be a long journey. Uh, you will become symptom-free. You will live the life you deserve, you want and deserve. 5:56 Uh, your children will become like you, and you'll find your soul purpose." And- Mm... at the time, I was just, I was more just wanting to feel better Right? Mm-hmm. 6:09 So the journey continued, 2006, so slowly I saw patches of healing, the ebbs and flows. I would feel better and then I would crash. I would feel and crash. 6:18 So for me, I would say that awareness came through when someone reflected, reflected things to me through their work, the modality- Mm-hmm... 6:29 of what was r- and once I started, those things started coming up, I started to... And what was difficult about my journey was I had to go do the work. 6:39 She would share things with me or say just maybe a line, and I still remember that. I don't think I'm gonna be this cruel to my clients. [laughs] Um, she would share something and I would have to go investigate it. 6:50 I would either internet and go get a book or go to a seminar or whatever it looked for me at the moment, or go seek help elsewhere. And something she said to me was, "Don't go elsewhere until I tell you to. 7:01 I feel you need support." Mm. So she was my support. I would see her every four weeks and, and then we would see what happened at the end of the four weeks. 7:12 So that's where my awareness came from, and then I just started doing the work and s- and, you know, one thing unfolded, the next would unfold. And you know what's interesting? 7:23 Even though after becoming connected mind, body, and soul, in 2000 I would say, you know, I remembered, was a member 'cause I went through with 7:32 a connection which helped my anxiety, um, attachment come out, which is, I remember, October 2025 exactly. [laughs] I still remember it. Um, that's when I really saw, oh, my God, all the work I had done come together. 7:47 Mm-hmm. And I'm still doing it. Things are still coming out. Something come last night after my father's passing. Like, it just- Right... but you're able to have that space and containment to deal with it 7:58 in a way that you're not overwhelmed. Mm-hmm. It sounds like it takes time, takes time to heal, takes time to build yourself back up, takes time to do the work. 8:12 And when you're talking about doing the work, could you, like, give us a few examples, just ways that you helped yourself do the work? 8:20 Uh, is this through, like, certain books that you read, certain connections that you made with other people? Or, like, just being by yourself and just meditating or going, like, to silent retreats? 8:29 Like, when you say doing the work, could you, like, share a little more about that? Okay. So doing the work for me was when I first... 8:36 Before I went to, to see this woman that helped me bring up more, I had already done some personal development book, you know. Mm-hmm. 8:43 I was reading, I was going to her seminars, which was just keeping me in circles, 'cause I wasn't really embodying it or really feeling it in my body. So with her work, she would want me to, of course, talk therapy. 8:54 Sure. Uh, connect the dots, which was very hard for me. 'Cause all the stuff was so in my subconscious programming as a child, 9:02 and then it was carried on to adult, so I never really learned to feel and process that and understand my core programming. So basically, I did it through a lot of mirror work. I also did it through journalizing. Mm. 9:17 I also did it going through workshops. Mm. And something I wanna say about meditation. Meditation, again, this is with w- didn't work with me, without judgment. It's not for everyone. 9:30 And I know when every- when I was going through my journey, people would say, "Oh, go do meditation. Go do meditation." No, because when someone has such deep programming and there's no support, meditation's... 9:42 You're, you're not... You may be able to reflect, but you're still not g- you're gonna... 'Cause I was so frozen inside my body. I had so much fear. Mm-hmm, mm. 9:48 I was in fear state most of my life until it started thawing itself in 2006 to 2025. So yeah, I used journalizing, I used mirroring, I used workshops. I wouldn't say retreats, but also I'll, um, 10:06 use sitting with my emotions. Now that didn't come to me, I would say, and I gotta be so honest here. 10:12 Even though I had done this sitting with my emotions, I read about it, I talked about it, everything, it didn't come to me since October 2025. When that anxious attachment came, I was like, wow. Mm. 10:24 And, and I started doing more in, even though I had done so much work. I was like, like I really s- like I really started pulling back, you know? I was like, "No, I, why am I doing this? 10:34 Why am I doing this push and pull?" Mm-hmm. And I started doing more, and I go, "Okay, that's sitting. Okay, Nina, you're gonna challenge yourself. You're gonna sit with this. You know the work you've done. 10:42 Now you're gonna journalize even more." And I gotta say, I hated journalizing, and now I would say I'm the journalizing queen. [laughs] I journalize everything. Mm-hmm. 10:52 And those helped me go deeper into my programming emotions. And in terms of sitting with your emotions, that's deep. Because you're gonna have to sit instead of before you would have distractions. 11:08 And what I mean distractions is you're, um, you're texting a friend or you're going to go shopping. Shopping was big for me, spending money. 11:21 Or you go to one practitioner to another because you're not, you want a quick fix. Mm-hmm. And nothing's a quick fix. It takes time. Okay? And in terms of retreats, I went to certain workshops. 11:32 As things came up, I would do energy work. So because we are all energy, right? So I did reiki, I did hypnosis. Mm-hmm. What did I do? Um, those are two ma- uh, reiki was p- very powerful for me, right? Mm-hmm, mm-hmm. 11:47 Um, s- like now when I do a reiki session, it's very relaxing, right? But when I did reiki back then, it was very... It would bring up things energetically and I would feel sick. Mm. 12:00 Because we're energy, so things were... I was already doing the energy work, so things were coming up, right? Mm-hmm. And in terms of retreats or s- like sil- I didn't do any silent retreats. 12:12 But I did go to a very powerful retreat in- Mm-hmm... July of 2016 Um, I can't share too much about the retreat because this fellow is, I can s- it was called Boundless Bliss Bali Journey. 12:25 He's actually doing his last retreat this December. Mm. Uh, his name is Coop Lakson. So I remember my naturopath had done this work, and I gravitate towards it. Mm-hmm. And I checked him out. 12:39 I guess it was, this was a deeper part where I was just going through another healing thing and I'm like, "Mm," I thought, I go, "Yeah, I wanna do this. It sounds exciting." 12:47 So next I knew is I end up signing up for the retreat, I got accepted, and here I was, I think it was July sometime 2016, I was on my way for 19 hours to Bali. My first ever getaway on my own, 19 hours. Okay? Wow. 13:03 And reading his book. Reading... I can't remember whose first book was, but, um, reading his first book on the plane. Mm-hmm. Okay? Oh, You Are The One by Coop Lakson. Mm. 13:14 So read that book, and at the time I was in a wait, I was in the midst of my journey from 2006 to 2016. Okay? Mm-hmm. So went to that journey. It was not your normal retreat, it was... 13:27 It was actually, he was getting more into making you very uncomfortable, and he would say one thing I remember, still remember it. Uh, "Are you bubbling?" You know, I still remember that. "And are things coming up?" 13:40 And- Hmm... and yeah, so subconsciously things were coming, but not consciously yet. They were just- Mm... being percolated. Percolating. And so that was 12 days, and when I came back, that was hard because 13:57 I'm a very, I'm empathic and I'm very s- Mm... I have a very s- sensitive nervous system. Mm-hmm. So there are eight participants, and not everyone had the same journey- Mm... 14:07 and not everyone had the same emotions that need to be released and come up, and/or programming or whatever it was, and I crashed. And I had a different experience. So I fell in deep depression for at least over a year. 14:25 Wow. And, yeah. And I did have some support, but I was very blessed that I had my health practitioner who helped me through that as well. Mm-hmm. That deep depression. 14:37 And because she had gone and she had a similar, we're both very, we're both empathic, so she had a similar experience. You know? Mm-hmm. 14:43 Hers was different depending on her nervous system, but, and mine was different, and she helped me work through that. 14:51 But again, even after that retreat, I wasn't totally feeling and connected to my core programming, and having then setting up boundaries or healing further. I still stayed stuck and basically, um, 15:05 went, and be honest, I went on another antidepressant and carried on. Mm. Okay? So that happened 2016, and, you know, just carried on. Again, autopilot, but still functioning. 15:17 I wasn't in depression, still going to work, still, you know. In the meantime, I was also working on my coaching certification. Mm. I had started that in 2014, so that was online. 15:31 So I was doing that, and I didn't, I graduated in, mm, February of 2017 with a master empowerment, uh, coaching certification through Simply Woman Accredited Trainer, SWAT. So did that, but I still was not 100%. Mm. 15:48 And I think my, then I think it was during COVID- Mm... that I really crashed, and I had to, you know, I was also a divorce coach and I left that because 16:04 I learned that like, "Oh, I really haven't healed." I started questioning myself, you know, "Why I'm not, why is this happening? Why can't I support my clients this way?" 16:12 Because I hadn't fully healed from my divorce or feeling my emotions. Mm. I couldn't help these women with emotional stuff when I hadn't healed. Right. When did you go through your divorce? 16:22 Um, my divorce, we separated in 2012. We divorced in 2015. Oh. Yeah. Okay. Okay, gotcha. Gotcha. Yeah, yeah. So then I, it was COVID. I also, I also worked for, um, healthcare. Had a 20 year career with healthcare. 16:40 Okay. And I just like, "I'm leaving. I'm done." You know? And then I really crashed. Mm. Like, like crashed where I didn't get out of bed for like two years. Literally, I was in such- Oh, my God... 16:55 the deepest depression I had. It was a, a depression plus a healing crisis. Mm-hmm. And do you feel like it's part of, like, you went into that really massive depression because you had left your job, your career? 17:11 Or what was that- Mm... what was that catalyst? I love that question. And now looking back, because I had never learned to feel, I was still distracting in certain ways. Mm-hmm. You know, work, gym, spending money. 17:25 I'm still doing all that stuff. Right. Um, and that was probably coming from my trauma or whatever, or that was my programming. That's how I, how I self-soothe myself, right? Right. Um, 17:38 so I think it was the sitting in the silence and people... didn't have to go to work. I didn't have the business anymore. Mm-hmm. My children were growing up. Right. I had no distraction. They were becoming adults. 17:49 Mm-hmm. And I was in the silence, and the world was in silence too, right? Right. And, and I could only relate that 'cause I had done all that work. And like, again, I st- was still autopilot. 18:00 I was still out there looking for another way to heal, because my other two healing crisis I had, I had my health practitioner and she says, "You know, Anita, I can't help you anymore with the work I'm doing. 18:11 I think this is the end." So I had worked for her for 2016 to 2018. So, but what I have, what I learned through my own healing journey was different people would show up To support me Hmm 18:27 So what happened during that was I ended, again, I ended up in the hospital 'cause I still wanted, I wanted to help because staying in bed was not the answer. Mm-hmm. And I was always, um, action-oriented. 18:43 You know, I need answers. Why am I feeling... I was fine, da, da, da. 18:46 So I finally did connect with another practitioner, and through her help, um, I don't think it was the antidepressants or anything, 'cause I'm still on the same one and another one wouldn't work. 18:58 Mm-hmm And or even touch the surface where I could feel a little better, just get out of bed and shower. Like, everything was a struggle for two years. And then I started- Right... doing more, 19:08 more therapy with this practitioner. And, and I guess I was able to connect more dots. I was able to see through her work, I was like, "Oh. Oh," and I started having more aha moments. And I slowly, I would think... 19:25 I think it was about end of 2024 or mid of 2024 that I started feeling better, getting out of bed, taking a shower, making my own meals, and feeling good, wearing clothes I enjoyed. Mm-hmm. 19:41 And so those all symptoms of depression. Right And I started going to the gym slowly, things I just loved doing. You know, all my hobbies started coming back. Sure. And 19:52 I started feeling better, and that's where I further started connecting the dots. I said, "Oh. Oh." So what I learned was I... So I started feeling emotions slowly in 2024. And I, again, new connections appeared. 20:09 New people appeared. Um, new work. So through introspection, I think it was... Again, like I said, I'm going back to October 2025. Again, I had a... Um, I made a new connection. Uh, I was kind of casually dating someone. 20:25 And you know mirror- they say, or, um, relationships are mirrors into our unhealed stuff. And because I was already- Right... on a journey, this person came in my life to mirror stuff. It was my anxious attachment. 20:41 I had no idea. And that was a major breakthrough for me. And it was October 2025. Still keep going back to it. Still remember it, where I really started feeling emotions. And because the journey was long, 20:54 and I was slowly feeling, connecting the dots, and healing myself on energetic, on an energetic, um, basis, that it wasn't as abrupt. Like, I didn't collapse again. 21:06 It was like, oh, oh, journalize, reflect, go back to my practitioner, talk to her about it. And then before you know it, I would say mid of, middle of 2025, yeah, and even so to about beginning of 2026, 21:26 everything came together. And that calling, uh, that deeper calling of want to, finding, okay, the sole purpose came through even more and, uh, and more, and that's where I connected with, um, 21:41 my business coach who's supporting me now in launching my business as a, um, personal, self-growth coach in supporting women. Right. So it took you years to figure that out, your purpose and meaning. 21:54 And I know especially after your healthcare career, or just careers in general for a lot of people, they go into a depression. 22:02 They go into this, like, state of trying to figure life out because they've been doing that for so long. So that makes sense- Right... right after your time, um, through that. 22:14 But through that you were able to find yourself again, but it takes, it takes time. And a lot of people don't realize how long it takes sometimes to become self-aware and to, uh, have that rekindling of- Mm. Mm... 22:27 your meaning, you know? 22:29 And, and finding meaning, this is something that I have struggled with in my own life as, uh, especially during COVID, I, I went through a separation and a divorce as well, and I put so much time and energy in a relationship, and it took me years to heal from that as well and go through therapy. 22:45 So I really resonate with your story, Nina. So I really appreciate you taking time to kind of- Thank you... share that, um, that linear, uh, progression, right? 22:54 Because at the end of the day, it's like, um, it, it, it doesn't go as quickly as we want it to. Mm-hmm. But at the same time we have to actually take the time for ourself and to do the work, right? 23:08 And, and part of that work is, like, it's not... A- and it's like we always try to aim for that destination, right? 23:14 But it's that journey of doing the work is what's going to give us the results that we want at the end of that journey, or a continuation of the next chapter or, let's say, new beginning in our life. 23:26 And so tell me more about your new beginnings with this whole personal growth coach, because you said before you were a divorce coach and you didn't like that at all, and you w- you had a lot of, you know, um, just feeling still about your past divorce and that you hadn't overcome yet. 23:43 So you had to go back and you had to rediscover yourself. 23:46 So talk to me more about the awakening of yourself just over the past few years of becoming a personal growth coach for others, especially women that go through the same issues that you go through. Right. 23:58 So what I discover... I mean, the divorce coaching was nice, but I also found it, it's, it's a different, it's a different niche. Mm. And I find with my new niche now as a self-growth coach, I can... 24:13 It still goes into helping women process their emotions and feeling them, 'cause most... Raising that awareness, 'cause I had no awareness. Then going into the core programming. Looking underneath the patterns. 24:27 Where'd it all come from? Okay? 'Cause that stuff was deep, and that's why my journey was so long and just wanna... I- for me it was so long because it was so deep. And not everyone's gonna have this journey. 24:38 It just depends what your soul's taken on, right? Or your body's taken on. So not everybody's journey's gonna be 18, 20 years [laughs] just to... Don't wanna scare people, right? Mm-hmm. 24:49 Um, and then after learning my core programming and patterns and, and shifting that, was I able to create effective and healthy boundaries. So those are the three pillars I support with w- women with. 24:59 Process their emotions, feeling them, then going into the core programming, where'd it all come from, and then h- helping to create effective boundaries. 25:07 And those three things can only connect until you feel your emotions, 'cause if you don't feel your emotions and don't know the core programming, there's gonna be so much guilt in actually setting a boundary. 25:19 You won't be able to... That boundary won't be effective. You're gonna be doing it... It's gonna be sur- surface level, and still the work's not being done. So those are my three pillars, how I help women with, um, 25:32 create their best life or wherever- Mm-hmm... they are on their journey. 'Cause how I can pick that up is a woman will share, let's say, if they get on a discovery call with me, okay? Mm-hmm. And something I do is... 25:44 'Cause women are al- already... I used to do it in my divorce coaching, and that was a different niche. But with the self growth coach, I don't do the questionnaire anymore. Ask them certain amount of questions. 25:55 Five questions. Just to s- I will get them on a call. I offer a 30, 40-minute complimentary clarity call. Mm-hmm. Get them on a call and help... They share their story. Mm. 26:06 And through their story I'm able to pick up things, okay? Okay. 'Cause I'm highly intuitive, empathic. Mm-hmm. So I'm able to pick up stories, and then based on that I'm able to ask them questions, okay? Mm-hmm. 26:19 And then they're able to share their experiences, and then I hone into that and then I can say, "Okay. 26:25 Oh, I see this, this, and that," and then I can say, "Hey, this is where I can support you, and this is what I offer as my program," and then we move from there and then from there I can see if they're a good fit to work with me, and they can feel- Mm-hmm... 26:40 me as well in that 30, 40 minutes, whether they feel I can support them. And I can ask them, "What else have you tried?" Because through that I can say, what have they been doing? Like, have they been... 26:50 And no judgment, 'cause I did it all, right? In my- Mm-hmm... in my entire life as a, you know, f- from 21 I did it, right? So I can see that. And then I can see what they've tried. Have they reading books? 27:04 Have they gone to workshops? Have they been distracting? Have they, you know, have they been e- e- no judgment, have they been, you know, some people have affairs on the side. 27:12 There's so many things people do to distract, okay? There is. Like for me, it was shopping. So based on that I can see, um... And that was not meant to be any negative, it just came up because some people- Sure... 27:25 don't know. Or, or they travel. Mm-hmm. Right? They do all- That's a, that can be a distraction. Yeah. Yeah. Or call a friend. Let's go out with a friend. Mm-hmm. Drinking. Drinking. I mean- I did that for a while, too. 27:37 Ooh [laughs] yeah. And I'm like, "Oh, I don't feel so good" doing that. So I was able to catch that, right? Right. So some of those little things we do, right? Mm-hmm. 27:44 So when they share that story with me over the, over the call, Zoom, or on the phone, I'm able to extract information and say... And then I don't automatically tell them, "Hey, this is what I think is wrong with them." 27:54 I can share them my perspective in, in questions like a coach. "Hey, uh, okay, so what happened with that?" And help them process, and then they can decide if... 28:03 First I wanna see if they're a good fit, because they may need... I may not be able to support them. Mm-hmm. 28:08 Like when I look at my, my journey, I needed to have a practitioner, she was a naturopathic doctor, who was able to go deeper than just surface level coaching. Mm-hmm. And she knew exactly when, 28:23 when to say, "Hey, Nina, you need to go see a doctor or higher, higher level of care, because I can't do that for you." But- Mm-hmm... 28:30 c- 'cause she was supporting both her modality and how the medical system would s- support me, right? Mm-hmm. So yeah. So the huge thing if for me is seeing, um, can I support this client? 'Cause I, I... 28:44 Something I learned from my own coaching is I'm not, just to say it, I'm not a, what's that? A fluffy coach. I'm not gonna tell you things just so you work with me. 28:55 I may say, "Okay, I don't think you're a good fit for me, but I'm, I could recommend someone and you can see." I'm very cautious on that, right? Right. So yeah, that's how I support my clients, yeah. I love that. 29:08 So personal growth coach. Can you break that down? Because there's a lot of different types of coaches out there. There's a life coach, business coach, you know? Um, it... Th- there's a gambit. 29:19 So tell me, like, why specifically personal growth coach? Is this something of your niche? Or, you know, tell me how did you get to this type of coaching that you can offer, um, for women? 29:31 So when I started doing more work on myself and, and started really going into look, I had looked, being a divorce coach, did that, and then I started working with, uh, you know, 29:43 you have one coach but then you sometimes you need more coaching, right? Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. And 'cause the journey never ends, right? Mm-hmm. The deeper you go, the whole [laughs] it just keeps coming up. 29:53 So then I attracted my business coach in, in January of 2026, and working with her and her pers- and going deeper with myself, I thought, "Oh, this is really good. 30:04 I like this personal growth coach because of the amount of work I done." Because in the... It kind of, it hones in on one, like it's broader than a life coach. I mean, it could be, but- Mm-hmm... 30:17 so that my niche is helping women, supporting them in overwhelming relationships. Mm-hmm. Helping them connect with themselves so they can see deeper s- parts of themself and, and then see that- 30:34 Because life coach kind of helps them broader. So my niche is- Sure... honing in, in r- helping them connect with their emotions and then going into their core programming because my... A lot of my work is 30:46 emotions, 'cause I had to learn for 18 years how to feel. I'm still learning deeper emotions that are coming up still, right? Right, right. It just never ends. 30:53 But really emotional work I can help them hone in, "Okay, hmm, do you feel that?" I don't say, "Oh, you've got that emotion." No. I say, "Oh, do, do you feel this?" Right? 31:03 And then they can tell me where they feel it in the body. Um, and then I'm able to really, really support women with their patterns, the core programming. Like where did it come from? Through back and forth, um, 31:18 talking to my client and them writing their life story. I can really see, "Oh, I see that," and then kind of communicate, see if they see that pattern and where it's coming from. And it's... Patterns are huge. 31:30 I'm still connecting patterns. Mm-hmm. I connected a pattern this morning with somebody. I'm like, "Oh, oh, it came from my father," and it continued on here, you know? And that helped me further heal. Mm-hmm. 31:40 And then from that pattern work and process emotions, I can help them go into creating affection healthy boundaries, right? Mm. That's- So every, like w- divorce coach had, it was a different niche. 31:54 I had to connect with lawyers. I had to connect, um, differently. With this it's a different kind of connection. It's more going inner, like going looking deep in self. 'Cause nothing's outside of ourselves. 32:07 It, it's, it's inside of ourselves. Would you say it's more spiritual? Well, that's... I, I mean, I love the spiritual aspect of it. Mm. But I'm willing to take... I can... And who knows, it may develop later, right? 32:22 Mm-hmm. Or I don't know, like, you know, I remember my co- my... When I first started working, doing the work in 2006, she used to talk about a soul tribe. And I'm like, I was like dumbfounded. I'm like, "Whatever. 32:34 I just want to heal," right? Sure. And I remember saying, you know, "What am I doing here?" She goes, "I'm helping you become the real you." I'm like, "Okay." Mm-hmm. 32:41 Well, now I see where I become the real you, and eventually I'll see a, I'll see a pattern of the kind of woman- Mm... I'm connecting with. You know? Are they, have they done some work? 32:52 So that way, you know, I'll see my soul tribe appearing. But on your, answer to your question, I'm willing to help anybody that wants my support. 33:01 And if they want to go deeper once they've healed, want to go deeper into the spirituality part of it- Mm-hmm... I can do that as, as far as I've gone, right? Um, 'cause that was all... 33:11 My work that I did was very spiritual. Mm-hmm. But being spiritual connected, and this is interesting [laughs] because we think when someone's spiritually connecting all they do is they meditate and they, um, [laughs] 33:24 I thought that too. Mm-hmm. All they do is sit there and meditate and go connect with, um, boring people. No, no, no, no, no. You still can live a normal life, like, you know? You pursue your hobbies. You still collect. 33:38 But you, you hone in on, 'cause you have more boundaries, you know yourself better, you kind of connect with people that resonate with you more. Hmm. 33:48 Like I can't connect with like the way me and you have connected, right? Mm-hmm. We can have this conversation. So, yeah, I can go deeper into the spirituality part as well. Mm-hmm. And I love that. 33:58 I, I, I love all that stuff. Yeah. Yeah. 34:01 You, you strike me as a person that does a lot of it, so that's why I asked you the question because, you know, when you say you go deeper with your clients I'm like, well, eventually you're gonna get to that spiritual aspect in someone's life, and that they're gonna rediscover who they are. 34:13 And you're just gonna build on it from there. So I think having that time and that space to allow them to do that, that's, that's powerful. Mm. 34:23 That's really something, um, worth celebrating and also just worth bringing up too, so that's why I asked on that. Great. So share me a little bit... Yeah, of course. 34:33 Share me a little more about, you know, you just recently discovered yourself as a personal growth coach not even a year ago you said, right? Or it's been a few years. Mm. So how are you- About a year... 34:43 about a year, a little over a year. So share with me a little bit about this transformation. How are you promoting it? How are you sharing it with others? Like, um, because it... This is your business. 34:54 I, well, you are your business, right? So it's like how are you, um, yeah, advertising it essentially? Okay. So I'm advertising. You'll see my posts. It's just starting. 35:03 You know, I have a booking link which, you know, I can share in your, in this podcast with you. Of course, of course. And we're... Yeah. 35:10 So where clients that are feeling, you know, they're, they feel like, "Yeah, this resonates with me. 35:15 I'd like to explore more," so I offer a 30, 45-minute clarity sessions complimentary, and we can dive deep and see if we're a good fit to work together. 35:23 I, you can find me on Facebook under Nina Tierra, Instagram under Nina Tierra. I'm just getting my, um, my channels all ready for that. And also, uh, you can find me... I also have a meetup. 35:38 It's called Becoming You, and it's on the Meetup site. 'Cause, which is in the States and in Canada. And I do that every Wednesday at 7:00 PM Pacific Standard Time. Great. So you can register if you... Yeah. 35:50 Is this like a networking event? So it's a meetup, and it's, there's no charge for it. It's complimentary. Okay. You join it and- Cool... 35:57 you know, I go into the story and people can, the woman can share what they're s- uh, what they're going through. 36:03 And I can support them, help them see their blind spots, their programming and, you know, where they're lacking, where they're, they're over-functioning and needing that support. I love that. 36:14 So you support local, local women, but you also has, is start, you're starting your social medias. So, um, who's your specific target audience? 36:26 My target audience will be, and it's interesting, um, I would say women between 35 and 65. You know? Okay. They, they're having child- they have children. 36:36 They may have been divorced, or they're getting into a relationship. They may be over-functioning, feeling tired and, you know, maybe have anxiety and don't know where it's coming from. Mm. 'Cause I didn't. You know? 36:49 So I'd be able to see, okay, ask the questions. Okay, where's anxiety come... And they can start digging deep and say, "Oh, okay. I didn't know that because I didn't know that my anxiety was coming from over-functioning. 37:00 I was doing too much in my life and not reaching out for support." Hmm. That's huge. That's- Yeah... that's a really big deal. Support is huge. Yeah. 37:11 Yeah, I feel like a lot of women out there, that they don't get enough support. 37:16 So having someone like you to support them through these hard times, um, especially that, you know, like you, you went through a lot of generational trauma back in the day and you had to 37:29 reprogram yourself, and you're still- Mm-hmm... reprogramming yourself [laughs] and- Oh, it's a never-ending journey... it's a never-ending journey, which is- [laughs]... kind of the whole point of life, right? 37:39 It's the journey, not the destination, right? Keep going back to that, but it's so true. 37:44 Um, especially when we're in a state of distress, when we're in a state of, like, not wanting to do the things we need to do- Mm-hmm... to actually be human or to adult, as they say, right? Adulting. 37:55 Um, because life can be hard. Life can be full of challenges. So, um- For sure... do you see doing this, like, for, I don't want to say the rest of your life, but for, like, the next five years? 38:08 Is this something that you want to keep doing and keep pushing yourself to do? And what are some future events or, like, future transformations you see within your own business that you aspire to promote or to become? 38:24 Hmm, I love that question. Yeah, I can see this as my sole purpose after going through 18 years and still going through it. It's my sole purpose. 38:33 I love it and I love supporting women because it comes so natural having my own lived experience, you know? I'm able to say- Mm-hmm... "Oh, I see that. I see that," you know? And helping to reflect on heal. 38:43 So yeah, I've be doing this for until I die, but, you know. 38:47 [laughs] Um, you know, um, in sort of moving forward, I have some, you know, I have some other things in my subconscious or consciously now, am putting it out there, is having a self-growth show. Hmm. Podcasting. 39:03 I know, yeah, they're out there, but right now I'm just honing in where I'm doing, you know, the meetup, I'm doing a podcast, and I do one-on-one. I think with my work right now it's more one-on-one, only because- Hmm... 39:17 it's so personal. I would love to do, like, the meetup, couple women come on, or five or six, or whatever it looks like. I'm able to support them that way. 39:24 They interact, communicate with each other, plus I give them feedback. And they're not really going in deep and pr- they're very conscious of what they share because we're in a group, right? So when... 39:36 So my coaching will be one-on-one. Maybe it'll go into group. I, I don't know, and that will, that will, that will come up as I do the one-on-one. 39:45 I do see myself doing retreats or being connected to r- other people's retreats and coming on. I do see myself talking on stage, 'cause that will be where I would get, get out there with my work. 39:58 Like, this is part of it, but getting on and doing talks, so I'm working towards that. And the rest I think, um, you let the universe kind of show you the way. Yeah. 'Cause it does. It does. Oh, for sure. Yeah. 40:12 Definitely. I'm, I'm a big believer in the universe and, um, there are no coincidences. There's always- [laughs] Oh, no... a time and a place for a thing, and we definitely met for a reason- 100%... 40:24 Nina, so I absolutely love that. 100%. And as we're winding down here, I know you do have to jump on another meeting in about 15 minutes or so, but- Right... 40:33 I do want to ask you, is there anything that we didn't discuss or talk about that you wanted to share? 40:39 Because I always love to ask that question because, you know, I, I try to be thorough, but I just, I want to make sure that, you know, there's, there's something that you want to say that you haven't shared with us yet that you feel that's very impactful to the audience, um, I would love to hear. 40:55 Thank you. Mm-hmm. I think you're a really amazing host. [laughs] Thank you. [laughs] Um- I get that a lot, but I appreciate that... 100% stopping. [laughs] Thank you. 41:05 Um, yeah, I've watched some of your older podcasts and I could connect with it. Mm-hmm. Um, you covered everything. Um, yeah, you covered everything, basically. Cool. Awesome. 41:18 Um, yeah, I think women just need to reach out for support. If it's not me, there's other- Mm-hmm... people, you know, that- Mm-hmm... connect with, they, they feel resonate with. 41:26 But, you know, it's so important, um, to reach for support. I, it, it, and I think now we're in a age where there's so many podcasts, there's YouTube video, there's so much available to us than it was- Mm-hmm... 41:40 just self-growth books and people talking. There's so much knowledge now. Mm-hmm. Oh, there was something I wanted to share. So a lot of... The word, because you mentioned that word. 41:49 Um, there i- I cleared a lot of intergenerational and, uh, trauma as well. Mm-hmm. So that's something I can see as well. That's, you know, that's part of my, my coaching as well. 42:02 But other than that, you covered everything and I think this was a fantastic connection. Aw. Yes, Nina, for sure. And yeah, where can people find you if they want to connect with you? 42:13 You said you had a website and, and whatnot. Yeah. I'm working on my website. Yeah, I haven't completely got it together, as I'm still- Okay... you know, you know, get that together. 42:23 I can share my booking link, and I offer the 45-minute complimentary clarity session where they can book a time to speak with me and we'd see if we're a good fit to work together. 42:31 They can find me on Instagram under Nina Tiara. They can find me on Facebook. It says shoot me a message on those two different channels. 42:39 And, uh, and the meetup that I mentioned, Becoming You, on Wednesdays at 7:00 PM Pacific Standard Time. And that's in Vancouver, so those are for people only in Vancouver, I imagine. [laughs]The meet- No, no No? 42:52 The Meetup site- Oh, it's online... is a site. It's online. It's online, meetup.com. Oh, okay. I, okay. Yeah. I, I assumed it was- It's a worldwide site... in person. Okay. No, no. It's over Zoom. Oh. Um- Oh, cool. Okay. 43:04 That's interesting. Yeah, and the Meetup site is, it operates in the States and in Canada. I'm not sure about other countries, but I do know it's, it's Canada and it operates in the States as well. 43:14 Okay, so like a Zoom session. And how long have you been doing the Meetup? Actually, let's touch on that really quick- Meetup-... because I feel like that's interesting... yeah, since January of 2026. Okay. 43:23 And how do f- people find about joining that group? Are, are they just on Meetup and they just kind of look around and they're like, "Oh, this is interesting. I'll go check this Meetup"? 43:33 Like, how do people- So they just-... find you on there? So I remember doing my divorce coaching Meetup. I did that as well, so I, I- Mm-hmm... I'm familiar with doing the Meetups. 43:40 And then when I started in January, um, so went to the Meetup site, look under women's self-improvement event- events. Oh, okay. It's called Becoming You, right? Gotcha. 43:49 Improvement, self growth, women's events, uh, net- women's networking. Mine's under Becoming You, and just, you know, sign up or just show up at 7:00 PM, because I'll be there regardless if anybody signs up. 44:00 Because as women, we've got children to look after, we got work, and we don't- Mm-hmm... and I remember doing it myself, so I know. 44:05 I never signed up and, or I would just attend because I didn't know what was going on in my day. I might have children, I'm already over-functioning, I'm already not feeling well. 44:14 So it all, you know, so- [laughs] Yeah, just kind of sharing that out there that I, I understand. Yeah. Got you. Have you had any luck doing in-person Meetups? 44:24 Have you done any, like, networking events with, to promote your own business or anything like that in the Vancouver area? Have you found that fruitful or no? Um, n- I'm just getting in, uh, right now and, um- Okay... 44:36 doing some in-person events as well. But Zoom's huge right now, you know? Okay. Um, but people do show up on Meetup, you know? They do connect with me over social media. Um- Okay... 44:47 you know, when you're out there new, and again, you know, people again, and people are unsure. Like, because some people have tried so much, and I know I tried so many different things for healing. Mm-hmm. 45:00 So I can see people being reluctant, and that's why I offer that 45-minute clarity call, and I'll also send you a booking link where they can, they can click on that on, on the podcast, uh, once it's released. Um, 45:13 people are reluctant. They're like, "Oh, well, why..." 45:16 And again, people are gonna resonate with me, and I always say this, people are gonna resonate with me or any other coach based on their, on their, based on their level of consciousness and their nervous system. Mm. 45:30 And where they're at in their journey. It's like, "Oh, I can relate to that. Oh, I went through that." So I may not be the perfect coach for them. Maybe they'll connect with someone else, I don't know. 45:39 But my message I can share out there and say, "Oh, I do this," and that itself raises flags in their head. "Oh, I remember that woman sharing that. Maybe I'll go to her," or maybe, "Oh, that coach is good. 45:50 I resonate with her. I'll... Since Nina said get support, I'll go there." Mm-hmm. You don't know how it's gonna come for them. Hmm. Last question, and I just, I, I wanna... This is so interesting about these Meetups. 46:05 So do you feel like in person is better or online is better to meet people? So it's interesting. Our world has changed so much after COVID, and I mean, I could... We could... This, this could go on for a couple hours. 46:19 [laughs] I could share some of the bad experience I've had when I was doing- Mm-hmm... divorce coaching. I can, um- Mm-hmm... 46:25 [laughs] again, I am complete- not into man-bashing at all, 'cause I have two boys myself, adult boys. Mm-hmm. 46:32 So yeah, I remember doing divorce coaching and in person, instead of the person showing up, he's gonna bring someone with him, a f- a, a, a friend or whatever it was. Instead, he's, he shows up himself. 46:44 So you can kind of connect the dots there what happened. Hmm. So, um, I'm open to doing... Again, we would do a Zoom first, and if they wanna do in person, I'm open to it, right? Mm-hmm. 46:56 Um, but I think online has become the way of doing it. Mm-hmm. And I'm open to that. But in person, I'm comfortable. I, I'm, I'm comfortable, so I really don't have a problem either way then. Cool. Awesome. 47:08 Well, thank you so much again, Nina. You're awesome. Really appreciate you- Thanks... coming on 111 Pod. And, um, yeah, you enjoy the rest of your day. Um- Thank you... 47:18 make sure that you, of course, you know, take some time for yourself and, uh, self-reflect as you always do, it sounds like. 47:25 So, and I love that you're becoming aware and you've s- shown your true self, and you wanna share that with others who maybe are not there yet with their awareness. 47:34 So, um, helping women, um, specifically go through either generational trauma or actually become the better version of themselves that they've always wanted to become, yes, we definitely need you. 47:46 We need that extra support. So I think what you're doing is definitely on track. And as long as you continue to find that spark of joy every single day when you show up, like, it's all about that energy alignment. 47:59 So, um, really appreciate your time, Nina, and, uh, I look forward to, uh, sharing this podcast in the next few weeks to everyone. So, um, thank you again. Thank you for having me. Yeah. Thank you. Of course. 48:10 Of course, Nina. And, uh, we'll chat soon, all right? Thank you. Thanks. See you later. Bye-bye. [laughs] Bye-bye. [laughs]
