Transcript 0:00 [electronic music] We're gonna help get this out. 0:11 Okay, guys, it's time to get a little energy for the night, and I gotta make sure that I'm drinking some water, so we're just gonna try and bang them both out at the same time. Today I'm going to be reviewing Hydro Rush. 0:25 Time to get up and start moving. Gotta reach out and grab my Crypto Rush from Hydro Rush. Let's go. We've gotta get this generator started, and we're gonna need the energy to do that and to go exploring. 0:37 Five, what's up, Sam? Give it just a taste test. All right. That rush hits where you're not rushing. Cheers, Sam. Ingredients. Okay. 0:52 You guys have magnesium in here, 66 milligrams, sodium sea salt, 1,000. All right, that's pretty high. 1:01 You got some potassium, keeps you nice and invigorated, keeps your bones and your joints going good, muscles from cramping up, and then creatine. 1:10 Um, a lot of people have been telling me about creatine, you know, um, very good things from, uh, from the weight training community. Yeah, let's see how this tastes. Okay. Not bad. All right, this is Hydro Rush. 1:20 [electronic music] Good morning, good morning, Scarlett. How are you today? Good morning. I feel wonderful today. 1:37 It's been a good morning so far. Yeah. Well, good. You look wonderful, too, so. Thank you. [laughs] Of course. TGIF, right? So before- Mm-hmm... we begin, I would love to invite you on a short meditation practice. 1:50 Would you join me in this? Mm, please. Yeah. Awesome. So just close your eyes and then take a deep breath. Three, two, one, and breathe out. Mm. 2:07 And breathe back in. Three, two, one. You can open your eyes now. Awesome. First time- Oh... I did that, so. That is- Um [laughs]... lovely. 2:24 [laughs] Everyone should take deep breaths before- Mm... doing anything, so I love it. Yes. Thank you. I was recommended by another guest of mine. 2:31 She was like, "You should do something different at the, at your intros when you're, like, just talking with a guest, and get them to, like, relax more." 2:38 Because, you know, we're all so anxious at the very beginning with recording anything. 2:43 I still find myself, anyway, and I have to be like, "Wait a minute, we're just two people talking, at the end of the day, recording or not." 2:50 And, like, let's be real, everything is probably getting recorded whether we like it or not, so [laughs]. Yeah, that's really creepy, but it's true. To think about. And I'm like, I just wanna be my natural self. 3:02 I just wanna sit down with Scarlett at a coffee shop and just have a conversation. However, we're on the other side of the world. You're in Vancouver. I'm in Colorado. 3:10 But anyway, before I get too carried away, would you mind introducing yourself and, uh, sharing us something unique about you? That'd be great. Thank you. Sure. [laughs] Okay. 3:20 So I never know what to say with this, 'cause there's so many things. Um- Mm-hmm... but yeah, I'm Scarlett. I live on Vancouver Island. I'm a mother. 3:28 I have two daughters, and I do a lot of deep healing work with myself, and I get to guide others on their healing journeys as well. 3:38 And it's just been such a beautiful evolution for myself and my work over the last, like, seven years, I would say. Well, longer, but the deep healing work started then. And- Mm. 3:52 Yeah, so just trying to show up in the world with, like, a lot of presence and patience and curiosity and grace. Yeah. I love that. Thank you so much for sharing. I wanna hear your journey of this deep healing work. 4:07 So the last seven years- Yeah... you've been working on this, so I assume you, you know, you've been working on yourself for a while and you're sharing that with others. 4:14 You're bringing that type of healing work, uh, for others. So would you mind kinda just breaking that down? What does that really mean when you say deep healing work? Yeah. Um, well, it all started, 4:29 I would say, just to give a little story with it, I guess. Um- I love stories. [laughs] Yeah. It was a typical Thursday night in my world. I was in my mid-30s. Um- Mm... 4:43 two young kids, and I was out with some mom acquaintances for my book club- Mm-hmm... AKA wine club [laughs] Nice... where we would drink lots of wine. 4:56 Uh, well, I would anyways, and, um, talk about a book we were reading. And then on this particular night, I ended up going out after the book club to the local riverside bar, 5:10 shutting the place down, taking shots, getting home at God knows what time. [laughs] Oh. And woke up in the morning with- Mm... my phone ringing, and it was a doctor from the hospital. Mm. 5:22 And my mom had had a heart attack. Okay. And I had the hangxiety. I don't know if you've ever experienced that in the morning when you're hungover and you're super anxious. Mm. 5:34 And that's what the first thing I did was, like, talk to this doctor about how my mom was in the hospital, and he wanted me to come down and see her- Wow... and talk about what was happening. 5:45 And I literally went and threw up in the bathroom a few times because I was so hungover and just, like, sick to my stomach. Mm, okay. 5:54 And got my kids ready for daycare and school, [laughs] dropped them off, and went to the hospital. And I remember sitting in the hallway- On a bench talking to this doctor. He was a cardiologist. 6:09 And I remember thinking, he can probably smell the booze on my breath- Mm... because we were sitting in, like, such a close proximity, and I was just, like, disgusted with myself. 6:20 And he knew that my mom was there because she's an alcoholic- Mm... and her health was so bad. And 6:28 so there was just, like, a lot of shame, a lot of shame there, and then I went in and saw her, and I remember looking at her and thinking, I feel like I'm looking in the mirror right now, 6:41 and if I don't make changes in my own life, that is gonna be me. Mm. Because I had been... That was, like, that was, like, that moment where I was like, "I have to change. Something needs to change." You know? 6:52 And I have chills just talking about it. Um, but- Yeah. Like your wake-up call... I, yeah, yeah. And I had been, like, numbing my emotions, my feelings for so many years, like 20-plus years. Mm-hmm. 7:06 And because I didn't think it was safe to feel them, just from childhood traumas and experiences and, um, beliefs and conditioning and all of the things, um, so I was numbing with, like, alcohol and other things, and 7:22 I was ready to stop that numbing. That was, like, the moment when I decided, and I never, and I haven't had a drink since, and that was October 5th, 2019, so it will be seven years in October. And that was [laughs] 7:39 when I had to start feeling again [laughs] which was- Yeah... really, really hard. 7:44 But it was also so beautiful because there was a spiritual awakening that came with that, and, like, all of these feelings I didn't know what to do with, so that's where I started finding the different modalities, like, "Hmm, I'm gonna try a meditation, and I'm gonna try just journaling and go to therapy and physically, like, work out more, and I'm gonna try breathwork." 8:07 And when I, when I tried breathwork, conscious, connected breathwork where I d- went on a breathwork journey, that was about a year and a half into my sobriety, and that's when I... 8:19 That changed me 'cause I felt a release of all of those things I'd been pushing down for so many years, and I felt this new, like, lightness and this new clarity of just, like, knowing what I needed versus, like, what do I need, looking to all the external resources. 8:36 I just felt, like, this knowing, like, "Oh, this is what I need," and it was so beautiful. 8:41 And then after that I started learning about it, and I did an eight-month course, and then after that I did more trauma courses and psychology courses and craniosacral and reiki and just kinda kept going, and o- slowly my offerings have changed from, like, circle, women's circles to now I do private healing sessions and I teach a, a facilitation certification to help other people step into that purpose as well, and lots of other things, retreats, and I run my own studio with a business partner. 9:16 Um, but that's kind of what led me there. That was the first step. Hmm. Yeah, you always have to take that first step. Mm-hmm. It's the hardest part- And then you-... I've noticed in anyone's life... yeah, it's. 9:29 But once you take that first step and you just start building on it, and over time it progressively, you gain momentum, and before you know it you're, like, running marathons and, uh, it's kinda like what, in business too, right? 9:44 I always say business is like a marathon. It's not a sprint. It takes time to build. It takes time to connect with people. It takes time to trust, right? 9:53 So it's like it's that trusting, um, just not with others but with yourself and, like- Mm-hmm... leaning into people, and it sounds like you really, 10:01 you really came to terms with your, your truer self, your higher self and, and from that point on you were able to take what you learned and begin sharing that with others. 10:12 So and it took seven years, so you've come a long way. Well, I'm still on it, right? I'm still on the journey to- Oh, yeah, we're still on this journey. Yeah, for sure. Yeah. For sure. 10:20 And, like, throughout it there's been some huge challenges along the way, but if I wasn't- Mm... like, doing the work on myself- Right... I wouldn't have been able to handle the big challenges that have... 10:30 Like, I've lost both my parents in the last three and a half years. Oh, my gosh. I'm sorry. My daughters have experienced, like, big anxiety. There's been- Yeah... lots of, like, 10:41 ch- challenges with being a mother but not having, like, an active mother. Like, there's that. There's just, like, all- Oh, yeah... 10:48 when you understand your wounds, when you start, like, learning about your wounds, it's h- Yeah... it's gets harder and harder to, like, look away from them. [laughs] So it's like- Mm-hmm... "Oh, I'm faced with this. 10:58 I've gotta look at it." So sometimes it can feel hard, and it can feel easier to just wanna run away from it, but I know from my past experience that it actually supports me more to tackle it, to sit with it. 11:13 Face your fears. Yeah. Yeah. You have to face them- Yeah... to be in process. Yeah, for sure. Mm. Were you really close to your mother? I was as a child. Mm. Like, we had an amazing relationship until I was about 11:29 m- like, mid teenager is when she kinda fell back into addiction and depression. Mm. Mm-hmm. 11:35 And then I, and then abandoned m- me and what I needed at that time, and I didn't understand obviously at that time what was going on, but I do now 'cause she had her own, her own traumas from when she was a kid. 11:47 So we ha- I had this amazing childhood, and she was sober for a lot of it, and she was- Mm... so present and beautiful and, like, entrepreneurial. She was an entrepreneur, so was my dad, so, like, I have that- Nice... 12:00 from them. Okay. And- Sorry to-... 12:03 so there's that, that piece, and then it started changing when I was a teenager, and then w- there was distance, and then there was, like, ups and downs, and then there was space and we'd be connected again. 12:14 And so yeah, in some ways we were really, really close, and then others in my a- adult life, no. Yeah. Yeah. I see. Yeah. Mm-hmm. I'm really, I'm really close to my mother as well. 12:26 I think there's something about being intentional with your mother, and then as you grow up, and yeah, sometimes you separate, but you're always... There, you can always rely on them, right? Mm-hmm. 12:39 Like, moms are supposed to be those, like, your, you just, no matter what, just that certainty as you grow up in life, and I've always found that, especially with women too, of just, like, they're having... 12:52 They're, they're so grounded in many ways, and it's like, oh, she's always gonna be around. But then one day you wake up and she's not there anymore, and it's like almost that empty hole, that empty existence. 13:03 And I can... Yeah. I, I'm, I'm very grateful I still have a mom. [laughs] Mm. And I love her so much. I know, enjoy her. Love her. Thank you. Thank you. Yeah. Yeah, I talked to her last week. 13:13 I try to talk to her at least every other week or so, just kind of just dial in. Amazing. Does she live near you? Uh, Florida. [laughs] Oh, okay. Florida. But, um- Mm... my sister lives here, um, in Colorado. 13:26 However, I'm not as close to her as obviously my mother, but in a lot of ways we do, um, share a lot of, um, likings and, and whatnot. 13:34 But yeah, I wanna hear more about, you know, this business journey of yours, this new beginning. Mm-hmm. So share with me, after finding your awakening, so to speak, your wake-up call- Yeah... 13:47 um, what, what, what, what gave you the courage to actually start building a business around this feeling you had of waking up? Yeah. Well, at the time I was, uh, I had another business. 14:01 I had a secondhand boutique and coffee bar- Really... in our little town that we live in, and it was, like, doing pretty well, but, um, COVID happened. Mm. 14:12 And then because I was in, like, such a clear mind, a clear space at, this is like- Mm... mid, mid-2020- Yeah... 14:22 um, I had closed down for a while and was, like, following the rules, and then I was like, oh, I, I just had this knowing that this wasn't gonna change anytime soon, [laughs] and I needed to make a change. 14:32 So I decided to close it and slowly... And homeschool my kids, [laughs] like, fully, not just for the short amount of time that we were needing to, but I ended up homeschooling them for two and a half years. 14:45 And I just started doing some things online, like starting doing some holistic coaching as, after I had taken some courses. And- Mm... 14:58 um, and then eventually started, like, renting out spaces in little, uh, like a dome in the forest, and a yoga studio. And I'm like- [laughs]... "Oh, I wanna do this. 15:09 I'm gonna join up, team up with somebody, and host a women's circle." Wow. "Oh, I'm gonna offer, um, a breathwork ceremony. I'm gonna..." 15:16 So I would just kinda start, like I was starting dipping my toes in, and because I was so much, like, on my own journey still, I, I wasn't... I was, like, really smart to not just jump all in. Mm. 15:29 Um, luckily I was able to, like, financially at that point, because I, I could see somet- like, with some people, they wouldn't be able to, right? And they'd- Mm... 15:38 they would've had to just, like, get a full-time job and pay for things. 15:42 So I feel really blessed that I was, like, financially able to be slow and intentional with this journey, and I feel like that was, like, divine timing, and I'm very grateful for it. 15:53 But yeah, I just started, like, being curious and experimenting with it basically, like what do I like offering? What feels good? And, oh, that wasn't very good. Oh, working with that person didn't feel very good. 16:05 Okay, I'm gonna do this. Mm. And eventually started renting out a permanent room in a yoga studio where I would just offer my sessions. And then 16:16 me and a friend decided to go in on our own space, because we were both renting something, and it just made more sense. 16:25 And so we opened Intention Wellness Space, which is a wellness studio in our little town of Lake Cowichan on Vancouver Island. 16:34 And I offer, yeah, like, all of my private sessions, as well as a sober circle every month, and a breathwork journey every month. And she offers her, all her offerings. 16:45 Plus we have four yoga instructors and regular yoga classes, um, every week. 16:52 And it's just become this, like, beautiful community space which I think that I tend to create things that I wish that I had when I needed them- Mm... and they weren't there, right? And, like, in our town- Yeah... 17:07 there wasn't anything like this, so it's like- Mm... be the change, right? Like- Right... create what you need. Create what you know the world needs. Um, yeah. And then I guess I've, I, I just, 17:23 I always wanna keep transforming and evolving, so I'm always, like, wanting to create. And so it's kind of spiraled in a good way into doing an online facilitation course, because that's what was wanted. 17:39 That's what was needed. So I had- Mm... people that attended sober circle regularly wanting to step into that work, and I'm like, "Oh, it's so beautiful. Yes, we need more of this." 17:49 And so I started, I created a course online, and my first one was last spring, and then the next one will be in September, and then there'll be another one in spring. So I'm wanting to offer two a year. 18:04 And it's not just for people wanting to host wellness circles. They don't have to be, like, spiritual wellness circles. My dream for it is that, 18:18 like, managers and employers will take it so that they can understand how to hold space for their employees, because I think everyone just wants to be seen and heard and valued, and we're just lacking that so much in our world. 18:34 Mm-hmm. And if these, like, leadership roles people can-... show up in that way more, then it's just gonna ripple out and just create a better place on this earth, you know? Everyone will feel valued. 18:47 Everyone will be happier and living more in their truth. So that's the, the next... That's the, the big thing I'm working on right now, and really wanting to promote, I guess. No, I absolutely love that. 19:01 Um, talk to me more about holding space. Mm, yeah. I feel like this is something that's not quite understood in a lot of cultures, you know. 19:11 It's, I would say especially in America, I feel like we're not holding space enough. So I think what you're doing is very, very important and should be talked about more. 19:19 So when you're sharing, like, holding space for someone or a group of people, what does, what does that mean? Yeah. Oh, I love this question. It's really all about presence. 19:31 Being present in the moment, no judgment, no advice lending, no comparison, no right or wrong. It's acceptance. It's like I'm sitting here with you, and I accept you 19:45 for who you are completely, with I'm not gonna give you a bunch of advice. I'm not gonna interrupt you while you're talking to me. I'm going to 19:56 give you that space to be seen and heard, and then that's gonna make you feel valued, and that's gonna give you more confidence. Have you ever, like, been in a meeting with somebody and 20:10 the [laughs] this is, this is, like, a perfect example, but if you're at, like, a, 20:16 a work meeting, if you've ever worked for someone that ha- somewhere that has m- staff meetings, and the boss gets up and he's like, "Okay, so, uh, we're gonna talk about this, and let me know what you think." 20:30 And then he kinda, like, just ramble, he or she just kind of like rambles on and talks about it for 20 minutes, and then is like, "Okay, great, and that's a wrap." And, right? 20:40 And everybody's sitting there like- Mm-hmm... "Oh, I thought you were gonna ask us what we thought. 20:44 Like, that's what you said at the beginning, and we all just had to sit here and listen to you while you talked at us, and now I don't get to share anything." Whereas if that, if that boss showed up 20:57 in a circle space, first of all, because even if it's just in chairs or desks, there's something about the circle and the energy, and it's an ancient thing. Um, it allows energy to flow, right? And everyone feels equal. 21:11 And he was like, "We're, I'm gonna bring up this topic, and then- Mm... we're gonna have 15 minutes to have anyone who wants to share s- how they feel, they can share it. And it's an open space, and there's no judgment. 21:27 And when they share it, they are thanked. They are listened to. They are not judged or interrupted, and j- they feel heard, and they leave feeling, like, a little bit taller, a little bit more like they matter. 21:42 And so that's an example of holding space. We don't know how to listen. Most people don't know how to listen, right? We're, like, at the bottom. 21:51 Most people are listening to respond or listening to give advice, or they're comparing in their head when somebody's talking to them. They're like, "Oh, I don't do that. Oh, I'm better," or whatever is going on. 22:02 So it's really, like, a practice of just being grounded and present and truly listening without judgment to somebody and holding that person so there's a space, there's an energy around you and them s- that's, like, 22:19 flowing, and they feel it. Mm-hmm. Yeah. I, I love that. I love that. And why do you think we've lost the ability to listen to each other over the last, I don't know, 20, 30 years? Yeah. I think 22:36 adults ge- generally lose it [laughs] just as they grow up and- As they age? [laughs]... just the con- yeah, the conditioning of the world. Like- Mm... there's just, like, people have all these, um, beliefs, right? 22:54 So- Mm... there's a lot of judgment. Like, people instantly, like, judge instead of remembering that we all come from a different background and from different experiences. 23:05 And so one opinion you might have might be completely different to mine, and it's because of our experiences, and that's okay, and it's kinda cool to, like, hear yours because it might help me understand a different perspective. 23:22 Um, sorry, I kinda got sidetracked there. No, you're good. But yeah, the overst- overstimulation of the world, the busyness, the constant, um, just being needed. Like, we're just, we're so needed, right? 23:37 We're so available now. Like, we have our phones and our computers, and people can reach us, like, in a second. It's- Mm-hmm... messes with our nervous system, and we're not able to just be. 23:49 We're constantly in a bit of a state of survival. So to be able to- Mm... just be in a space where you can, just like you did the couple deep breaths at the beginning here- Mm-hmm... 23:59 where you can settle and your system can settle and you feel safe, then you can really be yourself. And so- Yeah... 24:09 yeah, I don't know exactly why we don't know how to listen, but I, I think it's a combination of a lot of things. It takes practice. We need to learn to be more and not be doing all the time. 24:21 And so these circles and the, like, what I teach is there's agreements at the beginning that are always shared so that people can understand what this space means. 24:32 So for example, the biggest thing is confidentiality, and that's to help somebody feel like they can share something that's going on with them. 24:42 For example, even if it was, if it was a safe spiritual circle space or even if it was a staff meeting- Mm-hmm... if someone says, "Anything that you share with me here, this is gonna be confidential. 24:53 So please don't share other people's shares outside of this space." And maybe someone just is going through a big thing in their life. Maybe they just lost a parent. Maybe they're- Mm-hmm... having a health condition. 25:05 And maybe just because they were told 25:08 That it was a confidential space, they feel like they have permission and they feel comfortable enough to be vulnerable and to say, "I just wanna let everyone know I'm going through this big thing right now in my personal life, and I apologize if I'm not showing up 100% because of this." 25:26 And then all of a sudden, a weight is like released from them, because they're holding that in. And now everyone around them understands them a little bit more, so there's more like love and compassion. And just that, 25:42 like just that moment, changes like the whole- Mm... dynamic in the workplace or in your life if you're able to like share something that's really heavy, and... 25:53 'Cause there's so mu- especially in workplaces, there's so much like toxicity. [laughs] I, I've heard. I've heard. Yeah. I've never been like in corporate or I, I've tried my best to stay away from like nine to fives. 26:08 Like I just- Yeah... I really love my agency. I love my freedom. Mm-hmm. I love picking my own hours. This is why we're entrepreneurs, right? Like, and we love to work- Love the life... really hard, right? Yeah. 26:18 On stuff that we care about and stuff that we're building. And so I think, and I wanna go back to this topic real quick, 'cause I think holding space is really important. I- Mm... 26:29 was listening to another podcast recently, and this guy was talking about how we're losing the sense of creating really meaningful relationships, or the younger generation is because of- Mm... 26:42 certain technologies that are out, certain services that are out. So it's, it's that quick fix, that dopamine hit. Mm-hmm. And it's that hit that's like breaking a lot of nuclear families apart, and it's, it's why- Mm... 26:57 people aren't with who they're supposed to be with and have that family coexistence kind of thing for like a long-term thing like when- Mm... our parents or parents' parents kind of grew up. 27:09 Like everything's getting fragmented, and I think a big 27:13 reason of that is people don't know how to connect with other people in a very meaningful and intentional way and actually listen, actively listen, like you were saying earlier. And it was like, 27:24 I, it just really brought to my attention of like why I do what I do, and like why I have this podcast and why we tell each other these stories, just not to- Mm... each other, but to ourselves. 27:34 We're constantly telling a narrative about our beliefs and about how we create our days, and it's these stories that really will transcend, um, just not time, but with, you know, how we show up every single day to, to ourselves. 27:50 And so I know that was a bit of a rant, but [laughs] It's so true. I think the point, the, the point is relationships, right? Yeah. 27:56 I feel like we just need to be a little more intentional about the relationships we create with the people that mean the most to us, our community essentially, right? 28:06 And it's these relationships that are really going to lay the foundation and, and you can build upon, um, a great life and, and the dream that you've always wanted, you know? So- Mm-hmm... 28:16 um, thank you for sharing that, and thank you for wanting to promote that, too, in your, you know, Intention Wellness space. I love the name, too. 28:25 Would you mind sharing a little bit about the name and how you came up with it? I can't remember exactly how we came up with it, but it just, it felt really easy and natural because that- Mm... 28:36 for both of us, me and my business partner, we were just trying to live a life of intention. Like, just in every way, like showing up for ourselves. Mm-hmm. 28:45 When we're with somebody, like listening with intention, like making plans with intention. Like, not just doing all the things we think we should do and kind of moving through life really quickly, but hold on a second. 28:58 [sighs] How do I feel right now? What do I want? Versus like go, go, go without even giving yourself a moment to actually know, right? And that's what intention is. 29:12 It's just being really present and being really, um... What's the word? Like, authentic. Hmm. Again. Yeah. Let's talk about that real quick because- Yeah. [laughs] Good word. Um, that, that's... 29:30 word's been thrown around on social media quite often, too, and I feel like- Mm... a lot of it is performance driven just to get- Mm... the views, and like "be authentic" was a very popular hashtag back in the day. 29:41 And it's this whole like mindset of being your truest self, like showing up real, natural, right? But I, I feel like it's also been tainted a little bit, that word, or overused. 29:52 Um, when you say authentic, what does, what does that mean to you, and how do you live your life to the, you know, most authentic way? Yeah. I think that 30:04 a lot of people don't even know what is authentic to them, because it, it's not easy to understand because we have to slow down to know. 30:16 [laughs] We have to really like tap into who we are to know what feels authentic to us, and I think for me it means, 30:30 yeah, showing up as me without the biggest thing, like dulling my shine, dimming my light. Because I've done that a lot in my life. Like, "Oh, I'm not gonna share this because I don't wanna make that person feel bad." 30:44 Mm. Or, yeah, "I'm not gonna talk about this because I don't deserve that," or, um, yeah, I'm, am I trying too hard? Like overthinking it, all the voices in the head that come in and take over. 31:01 It's just sh- being yourself. Like, understanding who you are. [laughs] Who am I? Mm-hmm. Like, take that question home with you tonight and journal about it. Like, who are you? Who are you really? Not your labels. 31:15 Not like, "Oh, I'm a mother. Oh, I'm a business owner. I'm a daughter. I'm a sister." Uh, but, like, who are you? For me, like, I'm curious and compassionate. I 31:32 love to recycle and, like, see things repurposed. Mm. I love being with nature and I love to love and I love to be loved. Mm-hmm. And I love my space 31:51 to grow. So, like, those... just, like, a couple things that came up to me. So tho- that's, like, part of who I am, and it's not a label. It's not a hat I'm wearing, you know? It's, like, things that truly 32:05 connect me with myself, make me feel... yeah, make me feel authentic. [laughs] Right. Right. Without being- There's the word. [laughs] Right, without not overusing it. Um- Yeah... 32:22 yeah, I've al- You know, listening to another podca- I listen to a lot of podcasts, full transparency. [laughs] You probably noticed. Love that. Um, there was another one. 32:31 Uh, this guy, he was talking about authenticity, and he said how you, how you can be your, your truest authentic self is if you're aligned with your purpose. That's basically- Mm... what he said. Yeah. 32:43 And I, and I really like that definition too, because a lot of people, they don't know their purpose. Exactly. A lot of people, they don't really... 32:50 they're not aware, and it's that awareness I find of, like, when you're in alignment with what you know without a shadow of a doubt this is what you're gonna do in life, that's when you show up for your authentic self. 33:05 That's when you can- Mm-hmm... show up for people in the most truest sense of who you are and what you need to do and why you're here. Mm-hmm. So, yeah. Yeah. We can get so lost, though. I know. 33:18 We can get so lost along the way. Like, uh, when you were saying that, it made me think of when I did become sober and how a lot of my friends- Mm... 33:29 and I'm doing quotations because I thought they were my friends- [laughs]... fell away. Mm. 33:34 Like, partly because I didn't wanna spend time with them anymore and partly because they didn't wanna look in the mirror or spend time with me anymore, partly because we didn't have anything to connect on anymore because- Yeah... 33:46 our connection was, like, drinking. And so I thought I was living this, like, authentic life then- Mm... but it was just a big mask. 33:54 It was a bit of a facade because I was, like, numbing my pain and keeping all the people around me that were helping me do it, and I thought I was showing up authentically. Mm. 34:05 But then once I let go of that, it was like, "Oh, who am I?" [laughs] And then I got to almost, like, restart. 34:15 I almost got to be, like, a blank canvas, like, "Oh," and that's where the spiritual awakening kinda came in because I became so, like, connected to myself inwardly that I was able to realize what really, like, lit that spark within me. 34:30 Like, oh- Mm... 34:32 like, I love bike riding and I love singing, and now I'm in a choir with, like, a bunch of people older than me and that I show up every Thursday and sing because I love it, not because I've cared about what people think or I think I should do this or whatnot, because it genuinely makes me feel better, 34:51 right? Mm. Spark joy. And so that feels really authentic to me doing that. It's at the senior center be- I'm not a senior, but I'm- Yeah. [laughs]... I go because that's where the venue is. And in the- Yeah... 35:02 my past life I might be like, "Oh, I'm not gonna go to a choir at the senior center. Oh my God." You know? Mm-hmm. But, like, who fucking cares? Like- Who cares?... I get to sing. Nobody cares. [laughs] Yeah. 35:12 [laughs] It's what you wanna do. Uh, you know, you're taking ownership of your joys, of- Yeah... you know, the things that interest you, hobbies, and you're just... you're doing them for the sake of doing them. Mm-hmm. 35:24 And you're doing them for yourself. I think that's the most important part, too. And you're serving yourself. You're doing the things you wanna do. No one else is telling you to do it but you, and that's definitely... 35:35 I would say that's authentic. Yeah. I would say that's real because you're making that choice. No one else is. So- Mm-hmm... yeah. Good for you. Um, I wanna hear more about your target audience, your clientele. 35:47 So, uh, Intention Wellness Space, um, who do you serve? And, um, yeah. Yeah. I, I wanna hear more about the people that are, are interested in what you're interested in. Yeah. So at our studio, um, it's... 36:04 there's kind of a couple different audiences I would say. There's the people that show up to yoga regularly. Mm-hmm. And they wanna do yoga three times a week, and they show up to the classes and it's... 36:16 they're there for them and it's available and it keeps their practice alive, and that's amazing. Mm. Amazing. 36:21 And some of them also attend some other things, but then there's also the people who feel disconnected, feel stressed, feel depressed, feel like there's something missing. They're grieving. So many people. 36:38 [laughs] Like, right? Like, there's- It's a lot of people... they're just like, "What is going on with me?" Mm. And need some insight. They need s- a safe space. 36:46 And so they might attend, like, a full moon circle or a private healing session or a women's circle or a breathwork, and th- it'll give them an opportunity to 36:59 release gen- Like, for example, coming to a breathwork ceremony. Have you ever done conscious connected breathwork? Mm-mm. No? Okay. Explain. What, what, what is that? Oh my God. Sure. You have to do it. [laughs] Okay. 37:12 Um, so you breathe a specific way for an hour, and it's an- Open mouth breath, in through the mouth, out through the mouth. Okay. And so it's actually an activating breath. It, it builds a charge within- Hmm... 37:26 the system so that there can be a release of energy. [laughs] So it rele- can release, like, old traumas, stories that have been living in our bodies for years, like since birth- Oh... or even before. 37:43 And emotions that are trapped that we've pushed down forever because we were told, like, "Don't cry. Be brave." Like, whatever. Hmm. "You don't matter." We push, push, push. Hmm. And then it also 37:57 can almost bring, like, a psychedelic experience because it brings you to a different brain wave state where your thoughts go offline and you're just truly connected to your higher self, to your soul's consciousness. 38:10 And so all of this, like, beautiful wisdom can come in through, like, visuals or just inner knowings or words, or sometimes people are visited by, like, loved ones or divine or God or whatever they believe in. 38:25 And usually afterwards there's sometimes people are like, "Oh my God, what just happened? Like, I can't even explain that." 38:34 And you don't have to because it's not about being able to explain it, and it's not about, like, the thoughts. It's about how you feel after, which is, like, so much more connected, so much lighter, more like yourself. 38:48 Hmm. You've, like, you've let go of, like, the heavy weight, the baggage, and it's almost like an energy renewal. Hmm. So a lot of poor people can come to a event like that and find... 39:02 and, like, feel better, let go of some of that stress, and, and have that time to connect with themselves for, like, an hour long with no interruptions, like, deep listening to yourself and understand maybe what it is they need without someone else telling them. 39:19 It comes from them. Hmm. So it's really powerful. It sounds powerful. Like, an hour meditation sounds powerful. Yeah. 39:28 Like, I, I meditate every morning, but I usually don't meditate for more than maybe 20 minutes on a deal. Yeah, and it's not ju- It is a definitely a se- a type of meditation, but- Mm-hmm... 39:40 there's so much more that happens 'cause you can... You feel the energy. Hmm. Like, your entire body will feel like it's vibrating. Like, you can feel it. 39:50 You sometimes can experience, like, cramping of the hands, feet, and mouth. It's called tetany, and it's a- Hmm... reaction to the oxygen levels. It's n- it's a normal. 40:00 Uh, sometimes I notice clients experience it more when there's more resistance, when they're, like, not wanting to surrender, which is interesting. Um, and then the emotions. 40:11 Like, people cry, people scream, people laugh, people, like, stomp. It's, like, such a emotional release- Wow... that it's com- it's a lot more than a meditation. [laughs] But you gotta try it. 40:26 Yeah, it definitely sounds like it. Yeah, it's just breathing in and out through your mouth, basically, for an hour. Yeah. And so it's... But it's, like, a cl- a bit of a climb, so if you imagine. Mm-hmm. 40:34 So it'd start off nice and slow, like, your breath might be... Mm-hmm. But at the peak, the music... And I curate these playlists of music. Hmm. So it starts off, like, nice and slow, and then they become, like, 40:48 the tempo becomes quicker and quicker and more intense, and then your- the invitation would be to breathe quicker but still nice and deep. So it'd be like... 40:55 [inhales] [exhales] And it almost feels like the body just starts breathing itself. Like, you don't even- Mm-hmm... have to try anymore. Right. And it kind of takes over. 41:04 So it's like a- And so there's that build, build, build, and then it's almost like a release. Yeah. People feel, like, um, tremoring sometimes, just like an animal would shake after they were, like, chased by a tiger. 41:15 Okay. Um, trauma release, like little shaking. Um, sometimes just, like, spasming or pain until you, like, release a block, and then, like, bliss and comfort and yeah. That's so interesting. 41:31 So it's like you're climaxing and then there's a release. Yeah. And then you figure out, y- you're like, "Okay- Totally... I got it. I got it." [laughs] Exactly. Yeah. 41:42 I just, like, this whole, whole ordeal sounds like- Yeah, it is and I j- How often, how often do you do this? For myself or for others? Yeah, both. Um, I j- I make sure I do one, like, at least once a month. Oh, okay. 41:56 And if I can't get into an in-person, then I'll do an online one, because I can. Like, I feel comfortable doing that. Okay. Um, and I have clients that are part of a membership that come every month. 42:07 They pay for, like, a monthly membership. They come every month to a private session, and then usually t- once to the group session, which I just offer monthly as well. Okay. 42:16 I feel like once a month is, like, a beautiful way to support yourself. Mm-hmm. It's usually by the time that month comes along, there's, like, you've added layers of stress [laughs] in your body, like you're holding. 42:28 Mm-hmm. Right. And it's time to release and- Mm-hmm... but sometimes you don't need to for a couple months or a few months. It's just totally depends on you, and every experience is completely different. 42:38 Sometimes people fall asleep because they've been in survival- Hmm... 42:45 for so long that their body hasn't settled, that they're just exhausted, and they finally get to a safe space and they breathe for a while, and their body's like, "Ah, I can let go." 42:55 And they s- fall asleep, and they have, like, the deepest sleep ever for half an hour, and that's exactly what they needed that day. Wow. Right? Yeah. So, yeah. Everyone's a little different, sounds like. 43:07 Mm-hmm, and we're different, like- Of course, yeah... today versus in 30 days. Like, we're always at a different space in our life. 43:14 It's just like when you pick up a, a book you read, like, five years ago and then you read it today, and you're like, "Oh, that hit differently." [laughs] That's true. That's a good point, yeah. Yeah. I try to... 43:25 Yeah, I love rereading books too that I've just read over time because I always feel like I, I pick up something different, right? There, there's something I didn't catch the first time or even the second time. 43:35 And some books I read yearly because they're that- Yeah... just that good. Yeah, I, I totally get that. Do you have a book that you like? Do you have, like, a favorite?... 43:46 uh, that I reread every year Yeah, or that you just love- Um... and love recommending to people? Um, Awareness- Awareness... by Anthony DeMello. Anthony. I don't know, are you familiar with it? No, I haven't heard of it. 43:57 It's one of my favorites, um, it was recommended off of the Tim Ferriss Show, and I followed Tim for a while. Um, I no longer listen to him as much as I used to back in the day, but that was- Mm-hmm... 44:09 like his favorite book, and he rereads it constantly. And I finally picked it up, and I found it so good- Mm... I bought like 10 copies and I gave it to all my family and friends. Cool. 44:20 And yeah, it was kinda like one of those books, and I've just reread it every single year since probably five years ago. Mm-hmm. 44:27 Um, it was really, around COVID actually was when I, I first heard about it, so I've been rereading it since then. And it's been... 44:36 yeah, it's just, it's a great reframe or just, just a whole like perspective on life in general, and I don't wanna spoil it, but you sh- and it's a small book too, but it's just, it's so good, just the way... 44:49 'Cause um, he, he's no longer around. If you look him up later, Anthony DeMello, because he's a spiritual teacher and, um, he passed away some years ago, but he left all these amazing stories, um, for his parish. 45:05 And, um, someone took a lot of these stories and put 'em in this like small book, uh, called Awareness. He's got other books as well, which are probably 45:14 amazingly as awesome, but, um, this one in particular was like highly, highly recommended, and I can totally understand why. But yeah, that's one I would definitely recommend to you. [laughs] Cool. Will- Yeah... 45:26 write that down. Yeah. I'll pick it up for sure. Yeah. Yeah. So- I have a book like that too, that I've- Mm-hmm... given away many copies. Um- Tell me. Sha- share with me. The Four Agreements. Mm-hmm. Don Miguel Ruiz. 45:39 Have you read that? Okay. I'm wr- no, I haven't. Oh. So what's it called? Before, Before Agreements? The, The Four Agreements. Oh, The Four. Actually, I think that does sound familiar. It's like- Wh-... 45:49 it helped me so much when I was like going through my spiritual awakening and kind of like- Mm-hmm... just really stepping into seeing the world in a different way and supporting myself- Yeah, yeah... through that. 46:01 It really helped me with like clarity and understanding, and it's very basic and simple, and it's like- Okay... "Oh, yeah." Common sense. 46:09 [laughs] It helped me see that like, um, we are all just living a different version of reality, you know? And so- Mm... it... 46:18 and, and same thing, I don't reread the whole thing, but I have it and I open it up ran- to random pages, and just read a bit, like every now and then. It's like a coffee table book in my house now. 46:31 Yeah, but I've given away many copies as well. It's a great one that everyone should read, and like live by the four agreements. I love that. Mm-hmm. 46:39 So yeah, the audience has something to look forward to now after this podcast. Mm-hmm. Like go check out these books. Yeah. 46:45 Awareness is very similar to that actually, so it's, it's a short read, but it's just powerful, you know? Mm. It's just so, 46:53 um, it's just so real in so many ways, and I wish m- more books were written like that, but unfortunately... [laughs] Yeah. Well, I'm sure there are plenty. There's tons of- Oh, yeah... kind of books out there... 47:02 there's lots. It's just, it's so hard to find enough time to read 'em all, right? But- Yeah. Do you do the audiobook thing too? I, I've tried. [laughs] Yeah. I had Audible for quite a while. 47:14 Um, I need to re-up it, um, because, um, there's just more books. I, I, I just don't have time to... like, I usually have time in the mornings. It's part of my morning routine, which is actually my next question for you. 47:25 Ooh, yeah. If, um, do you have a morning routine? And if you do, would you mind sharing it? Because part of my morning routine is the whole meditation, stretching, reading- Mm... and then usually, like I'll do... 47:38 I used to journal a lot, but I've just noticed doing voice memos is my way of journaling now. Ooh. So I do like a voice memo, grateful kinda thing with like a recap of the day before. 47:49 But I'm just curious, like yeah, what's your morning routine, and how does it set you, yourself or set your day up for success? Mm-hmm. Yeah. So good. Morning routines are everything. [laughs] Mm. 48:03 And mine is to get up very early, because I have two children and a husband, and they r- especially right now, summer break, everyone's like always around. Mm-hmm. 48:16 So even if I'm working, like if I don't get up really early, I'm not going to connect with myself, feel grounded- Mm... and I'm not gonna get anything done. So I like to have enough time to do... 48:29 I, I do a breathing practice, the heart coherence breath. It's one I recommend to everyone. It's breathing in and out through your nose for five counts in, five counts out. 48:38 Super simple, but it ends up being a meditation. Like it's a breath, but it ends up being a meditation. Whatever needs to show up shows up, and it's five minutes, so I do that for five minutes. Love it. 48:49 And then I move my body. So I'm, right now I'm like following a fitness program pretty intensely for the last like 12 weeks. So that's not super normal of me, but I'm doing that right now, so- Mm... 49:03 like this morning was an hour of working out, which was really long. [laughs] Oh. [laughs] But I did it, and I'm trying to be very intentional with it- Mm... instead of like... 49:12 I have a fitness coach who is incredible, if anybody's looking for someone- Wow... because she really helps with mindset and beliefs and life versus like just like getting that beach body, which is what I need. 49:25 I don't want the person that's like just telling me to like look good. Yeah. Like I need the whole package. 49:31 I need to know why I'm like going and grabbing the cheese from the fridge when I don't wanna look at my problems. [laughs] Um, so moving my body. Mm. So if it's not a workout- Yeah... 49:42 it's like music for 10 minutes- Mm... shaking and dancing And that- Mm... just releasing, like, whatever's in there. Mm. 49:50 And then, yeah, I always open, after I do a meditation or breath and some movement, I always make myself a coffee, sit down on the deck usually. I get my journal out, do, like, a bit of free writing or point form. 50:05 Sometimes it's just a list of what I need to do today and why it feels overwhelming, and then, like, writing down my why and my feelings around it, and then, like, prioritizing what I need to do, 'cause that's- Yeah... 50:17 a big thing for me is overwhelm. Mm-hmm. I'll be like, "I have way too much to do and I can't," and then I just wanna quit. Mm, yeah. So if I can, like, kind of like process that on paper, it helps me, it helps me. 50:28 And then j- and then I'll get a bit of work done while there's... There's usually computer work, emails, um, stuff like that in quiet and peace with nobody around. 50:40 And sometimes there's a 20-minute dog walk in there if my husband doesn't take her. But yeah, always some form of breath or meditation, some form of movement, and some form of journaling. That's amazing. Yeah. 50:55 That's beautiful. Thank you for sharing. And the days that I don't do it- Mm-hmm... if for some reason I don't do it, I'm traveling or, like- Mm... 51:02 we were up really late and I'm just like, "I'm gonna sleep in," which is super rare, but if I don't, I notice my whole day. I'm, like, reactive, I'm tired, I'm annoyed. Like, I'm just not me. Mm-hmm. 51:14 And so it really makes a difference. Yeah. Oh, I bet. Yeah, for sure. It should. Um, and you do it every single day. That's amazing. Do you have an evening routine as well, or not so much? Mm, do I? 51:28 No, just trying to go to bed early. [laughs] And- Right... I do often do breathing in bed- Okay... especially because I have an active mind. Mm-hmm. 51:38 And so I do, like, a bit of an activating breath or, like, a Wim Hof sort of breath. Mm-hmm. Yeah. 51:43 Um, because it's like a quick build and then it allows for my body to settle, and it takes my thoughts away, and then I fall asleep quickly. Mm-hmm. Yeah. Mm-hmm. I love that. 51:52 Sometimes I'll read before bed, but I can only ever get through like two pages, and then it's, like, on my face. [laughs] You're just passing out. Yeah. [laughs] Yeah. I've noticed. I'll do a mix. 52:03 Sometimes I'll read, sometimes I'll put on a podcast, sometimes I'll put on a show, but then five minutes later I'm just out. [laughs] Yeah. And that's good, though. It shows that we- Boom... can sleep. 52:13 'Cause I know- Yeah... some people struggle with sleep, and- Mm... it's, that can cause a lot of, um- Problems... yeah, just being able to function, right, in life. Mm-hmm. You can't if you're not sleeping. Mm-hmm. Yeah. 52:26 That's huge. It's like the number one thing you need, right? Mm-hmm. Sleep. [laughs] And water. Yes. I gotta drink more water. Hydration is really, really important. I feel like we're- Mm... always so dehydrated. 52:41 And- Yeah... yeah, that's, that's a big issue. 52:44 I wish they could solve a problem of, like, drinking enough water by, like, you just put in some minerals or something and you just have to drink half the water that's required for the day. Wouldn't that be cool? 52:56 Like, that would solve so many- You want, like, a biohack? You want- Yeah... a easy way out? [laughs] I don't know. I just feel like I'm always drinking water, all right? 53:04 And then I have to go to the bathroom, and that takes time. You see how much time you waste by... [laughs] It's 'cause our body is made up of, like, 90% water. I know. We're, we're pretty much water. We need it. Yeah. 53:14 Yeah. We're, we're like little aquariums just kinda walking around. I understand. [laughs] Yeah. I know. It's pretty cool. Um, I wanna go back to your... 53:22 You know, I, I, s- it sounds like, to me, and you can mistake me, but breathing is very important. Mm-hmm. But especially to you. Mm-hmm. 53:30 Like, that's part of your business too, showing others the right way to breathe, um, different breathing techniques. Um, your breath, obviously, is very, very important. This is how we live day by day. Yeah. 53:44 Uh, and so would you share with me, um, some of the breathing techniques that you've learned over the years that have really made a huge impact in your life? 53:51 And just maybe just educate us all, you know, the audience, because I'd just love to learn a little more when it comes to the breath, you know, and how- Yeah... you can use it, um, and use it in, in just amazing ways. 54:04 Yeah. It's definitely s- very important, and it's something we kind of unlearn as we age. And so we generally, when we're adults, we're not breathing the way we did when we were young. Mm-hmm. 54:18 And we're breathing shallow now. Mm. And we wanna breathe deeper. So you might notice... Like, the, the first thing I always tell people is just start noticing your breath. Just start noticing it. 54:31 Like, notice what you're doing when you're talking. 54:33 If you're a talk- if you talk a lot and you're a fast talker, like, you're probably not breathing for a really long time, and then you're just going on and on and on, and then you're like, "Oh. [laughs] Right?" 54:43 Yeah, no, I've had those moments. And that's not healthy. Yeah, I know. Yeah. And that's not healthy. Mm-hmm. Or, um, if you're really concentrating, like, sometimes people hold their breath for too long. Mm-hmm. 54:54 Or they're stressed and they're driving, and they're thinking about all, everything they have to do, and they're just, like, holding their breath. And then they're like, "Oh, when was the last time I took a breath?" 55:02 Like, they don't even notice. Mm. But so I always say just start noticing your breath. Like, notice when you're breathing. Notice how deep it is. 55:10 And notice if you're breathing, like, into your belly and your chest, or if you're just breathing all up in your chest. And if you are just breathing all up in your chest, see if you can start lower. Mm. 55:22 Lower and slower. So when you breathe in, you wanna breathe it, you wanna be breathing in and out through your nose all the time when you're just in normal life. 55:31 And so if you're breathing through your mouth all the time and when you're sleeping, it's not healthy. You're not getting, like, a full breath. Your nose has filters. You wanna- Mm... 55:40 breathe through your nose nice and slow. So that's what the heart coherence breath does. It teaches us to, it trains us to breathe that way. Um, it's actually on the HeartMath website. It's, um-... 55:54 scientifically proven if we did this practice three times a day for five minutes, we will extend the life of our heart. It builds resilience. Mm-hmm. And so that when hard things happen, we can handle it. Mm-hmm. 56:09 Our heart can handle it. And so it's just in through the nose for five counts, which might feel long, and then out through the nose for five counts. So if five's too long, start with four. 56:24 And you basically just wanna do that for five minutes. So I generally will put a song- Mm-hmm... on in my headphones. Mm-hmm. And I'll do it. And because a song is about five minutes usually if you can find one. Mm-hmm. 56:34 Um, and if you can get into a practice of that, like, just like you brush your teeth every morning, like do that- Mm-hmm... 56:40 every morning, and then maybe put a timer in your phone and try to do it another time throughout the day. It's just training you to breathe that way all the time, which is so supportive to your nervous system. 56:51 Um, another really good one is just a big sigh. Mm. Like deep in through your nose and then [sighs] like literally like the biggest- Mm... loudest, most annoying sounding sigh. 57:05 [laughs] Because it also like, it activates the throat chakra, it tones the vagus nerve. It's like releasing, letting go of some things you might be holding. You'll notice your body moves when you do it too. 57:18 You're like- Mm... [sighs] you kind of just like let everything go, right? Mm-hmm. And so we... 57:23 Especially if you're really busy moving through life, doing all the things, and if you can stop and just take a couple big sighs, it's like a little bit of a renewal. You're like, "Oh, okay." Mm. 57:36 And one thing that I always recommend, and it's not super about breathing, but it's all connected, do you have any pets? I do. I have a cat. Okay. So watch your cat. [laughs] Okay. 57:50 And if you have a dog, if anyone listening has a dog, watch your dog. Mm-hmm. And just like watch the way they move through life. Mm-hmm. Right? They don't have a lot of responsibilities. [laughs] They don't. 58:01 [laughs] But they, they live in their bodies, right? Mm-hmm. They're not, they don't live in their minds like we do. They live in their bodies. Mm-hmm. So their transitions are really good. Mm. 58:11 So when you go from one activity to the next, like n- we are, we generally will like just jump right into something. Mm-hmm. 58:18 But what we need to be doing, just like you did the couple breaths at the beginning of here- Mm-hmm... 58:23 we need to stop, and we need to ground in, and we need to kind of recalibrate, and we need to like settle and then move on. And so a cat or dog might do a big stretch and a yawn, and that's an energy release. 58:37 A yawn is an- Mm... energy release. Mm. And then a dog might shake, they're shaking their body. Mm-hmm. Releasing. It's a reset. Right. And then they might like stroll over and do whatever they're gonna do next. Mm-hmm. 58:51 So before you go from one thing to the next thing, be like a, a dog or a cat. Mm. Like stretch, yawn, shake, and then move on. I love that. Yeah. What about posture when you're breathing? Yeah. 59:06 Well, it depends on what you're doing. Mm-hmm. But when you're, if you're seated, you just wanna have your back straight. You wanna feel- Okay... supported. Mm-hmm. 59:12 If you need back support, like if you feel like sitting- Mm-hmm... straight up without anything behind you, then just prop a couple pillows. You don't wanna be like slumped. You want everything to be- Right... 59:22 kind of like open. Mm-hmm. And it can be really helpful to do a couple like side stretches too before. Mm-hmm. Because your ribs, like you wanna feel your breath going right into your ribs when you're breathing. Mm-hmm. 59:34 You wanna feel your breath going right into the back of your heart when you're inhaling. You wanna find like full expansion and just start noticing that. I love that. Yeah. Yeah. Mm. 59:47 No, that's amazing because I just, I feel like a lot of us, we just don't know how to breathe correctly or breathe w- with these deep breaths because we're, i- it's unconscious, right? Mm-hmm. 1:00:01 Like we're just, innately we're just constantly breathing, but we just, we don't take enough time to notice. Mm-hmm. And we're not, we're just not being intentional. Yeah. That's what it comes down to. And that's it. 1:00:12 It's just like, I feel like there's been a theme in this conversation and it's very much about like, just like noticing yourself, right? Yeah. 1:00:19 Like noticing what's within you, like noticing what's true for you, what lights you up. Mm-hmm. Noticing your breath, noticing your body, noticing how you feel. Um, I use a, an acrony- an acronym a lot, um, RAIN. 1:00:33 It was- Mm... it's a Tara Brach meditation. Um, but it stands for recognize, allow, investigate and nurture. Mm. 1:00:43 And so when we feel like triggered in some way, or overwhelmed, or sad, or angry, or some- something big comes up, that this is the most amazing way to kind of process it quickly on our own. 1:00:56 And so it's literally just like sitting with yourself. Okay. Recognizing like, what is that that's there? Oh, it's anger. Oh my God, I'm so angry. Mm. And then allowing it, letting it be there. 1:01:10 Like generally we'll like push it down and go do something else and not have to look at it, right? Which is not good. If we can be with it for like a couple minutes, we can generally move through it. 1:01:22 Like 90 seconds I think is the science. Mm-hmm. And then so allow it, and then if you're up for it, investigate gently. Like, why is that showing there? Why is that showing up there? 1:01:33 Like, oh, is it something that always shows up or is it new? Oh, it's because she said that to me. Oh, it's because I felt like I didn't matter when she said that. Mm. She always makes me feel like I don't matter. Why? 1:01:47 Hmm, interesting. Right? You're learning something about yourself. Mm-hmm. And then, and the last one is nurture. What do I need right now? What do I need? How can I nurture myself? 1:01:58 I need to call somebody that loves me, that always makes me feel better, or I need to go for a walk in nature. Mm-hmm. Or maybe I need to just sit here and write in my journal. Mm-hmm. 1:02:08 Or lay on the floor for two minutes. Like, really just gifting yourself whatever you need, even if it's just, like, two minutes of it. So that's a really beautiful way to, like, support yourself when anything comes up. 1:02:22 I absolutely love that. Um, more people need to take those moments- Mm-hmm... those in-between moments. And so I really am glad that we're able to share these moments together. 1:02:34 Um, as we're kinda winding down, I was just- Mm-hmm... kinda looking at the time. I don't wanna look at the time, though, right? Mm-mm. Time's a- time's totally a construct, right? Who cares? 1:02:43 [laughs] Um, [laughs] so just keep going, but I've been having an amazing time. Um, I'm sure, uh, hopefully you are as well. Yes. 1:02:50 And as we kinda wind down, um, I just, a few more questions that kinda brought up to light, and I always like to ask this one. And, um, yeah, I'm just gonna go for it. 1:03:00 So if you couldn't do what you're currently doing in life right now to support yourself or your family, what is something that you would do that you haven't done before that, that, yeah, that you would embrace? 1:03:14 Like, as far as, like, work goes? Yes, yes, sorry, as work- Okay... as a career. If you couldn't do what you're currently doing- Mm-hmm, mm-hmm... what would you do as a career in, let's say, another life? Mm-hmm. 1:03:27 I would travel around to all different places and go to all the cool little restaurants, eat all the food, and be like, and write reviews about them- Right... and share. So travel writer. Yeah. Travel writer. 1:03:43 And I already, I already made this up in my mind when I was- [laughs]... like, in my 20s. It would be called Scarlet Stars. [laughs] Scarlet Stars. And then you- Nice... 1:03:51 you would get the stars if it was really good, and I would share about the environment, like the, the vibe, and if you had really good mocktails or not. [laughs] And, like, how good and nutritious the food was. 1:04:04 And I would get to travel and hang out with people and eat really good food. Okay, so a travel guide. [laughs] Travel restaurant- Guide... yeah. Okay. Restaurant- Restaurant guide... travel person, yeah. 1:04:17 Restaurant travel person. So not only do you talk about the country, but what's good in the country- Yeah... the food specifically, or the wine, or who knows? 1:04:24 And you obviously have to try it, so, so you can- Not the wine... or, okay, not a wine per- It would be like a sober, it would be a sober one now. Okay. Yeah. Not, not alcoholic. Oh, that's right. I'm sorry. Yeah. Yeah. 1:04:35 Yeah, but all the f- everything else, yeah. Everything else. Everything else. That's what I would do. That's amazing. That's amazing. Mm-hmm. There are people that actually do that, so. I know. [laughs] I wanna be them. 1:04:46 [laughs] Oh, maybe one day. Who knows? Maybe. That could be a, a really great job after you retire or something if you do retire. Totally. I don't know. Yeah. That could kind of be ideal, yeah, because, uh... 1:04:57 And, and I assume you've been pretty well traveled, right? You've been to- A little bit... many countries. Okay. Yeah. I mean, I've been- Mm-hmm... a few places. Not- Yeah... 1:05:06 super well traveled, but been to Europe and through the States a bit, and- Mm-hmm... where else? Cuba, Mexico. Yeah. Both, yeah. I would like to go to, like, different places in Asia. I haven't been. Mm. 1:05:21 So I would love to explore that part of the world one day. Yeah, you will. You will. I will. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I can totally see that in the stars for you, so. [laughs] I love how much hope you bring to my life. Ooh. 1:05:34 [laughs] Well, this is part of my job. I'm, I'm gassing you- You're good at it... up here. [laughs] Yeah. Well, I know it. 1:05:40 I, I feel like since I've just heard your story over the last hour, I just, I'm, I'm feeling your power. You have so much courage- Mm... because, you know, without vulnerability, there is no courage. 1:05:51 I, I love that, you know- Mm... quote, by the way. Love that too. I've said it some, some version. But, um, you have so much courage. You're, you're brave, and it's like you're, you're taking... 1:06:00 Well, I think being an entrepreneur, you have to be brave to begin with. You do. Let's be real, you know? Yes. 1:06:03 But on top of that, like, doing what you're doing, and you're collaborating with people, I'd love to hear, um, what do you see in the future for your business, Intention Wellness Space? 1:06:15 What are some aspirations or dreams? Yeah, just dream with me a little bit. Like, where do you wanna go with this business? How do you want it to change people's mindsets when it comes to being more intentional? Mm-hmm. 1:06:26 Um, hmm. Well, I know Intention Wellness Space will be there as kind of, like, the in-person hub. Mm. 1:06:39 Um, m- but I feel like, just, like, my personal holistic coaching side of things, and I'm doing this 'cause I'm just, like, imagining it- [laughs] Sure... growing off to the side a little bit. Okay. Um- Like a plant? 1:06:52 Okay. Yeah, because right now I'm, I'm starting to do more, like, live speaking events. Oh, cool. So that's a big, that's a new twist. Um, it's- Mm-hmm... yeah, I have a couple booked. 1:07:07 Like, I'm doing one at the Vancouver Wellness Expo, and I'm gonna speak on, like, a lot of the things- Oh... that we're talking about, right? Like- No way. That's huge... 1:07:17 yeah, like stress living in the body and burnout- Man... and how we can make changes and how choices and declaring what we want to the world can really, like, help support us and how we can, yeah, release. And, 1:07:30 um, so that. I wanna be speaking on stages, like, at least three times a year, and then I want to continue to share the space holding techniques with the world. 1:07:48 So those are the two things that I'm really focusing on. Uh, but I, but I never look too far in the future because I always wanna leave-... 1:07:58 room for just natural growth because I feel like opportunities always present themselves when I am, like, following my purpose, which is what, this is what it feels like right now. 1:08:11 And then you meet people, and something comes up, and all of a sudden you're in Costa Rica riding a horse on the beach. [laughs] Right? Like, I don't know. Oh, my gosh. So- That sounds so dreamy. 1:08:22 [laughs] Yeah, the, the future, the possibilities are endless. Yeah. And well, I guess one thing too- Hmm... that is really exciting that I'll share is me- Yes... 1:08:31 and my business partner, Julie, we're hosting this beautiful luxury women's wellness retreat in this, like, absolutely stunning, massive, gorgeous location on the lake here in the Cowichan Valley. Wow. 1:08:46 And it's in November, and there's only space for 11 people, and there's- Oh, wow... a few signed up. 1:08:52 But it's basically, like, if you're, if you're struggling, and you're overwhelmed, and all the things we've been talking about, and you really wanna show up for yourself, like, a deep healing retreat, three nights, four days, that this is where you wanna come- Hmm... 1:09:08 because there's no distractions. You can give us your phone if you wanna, like, completely unplug. Hmm. And we'll have, like, connection circles, breathwork, yoga, um, really nourishing food that's all 1:09:23 made by a local chef, and time to really, like, settle the nervous system and connect with yourself. And then also, like, an integration plan. 1:09:32 Like, now that I'm here, and I've done this work, how can I go back into my life and, like, keep doing it, right? 'Cause I think that's one of the hardest things. 1:09:40 People almost use wellness, um, retreats and experiences sometimes as an escape. It's like, oh- Hmm... I'm gonna go do this, and I'm gonna unwind, and it's gonna be so good. And then now I'm right back to my busy life. 1:09:53 Hmm. But how can we actually, like, incorporate those practices into our lives so that there's, like, sustainable change? So that's exciting. 1:10:00 In November, if anybody listening is, wants to travel to Vancouver Island and do a deep healing retreat. I do. I do. [laughs] Yeah. Well, you said it was women only, right? It is women only. Okay. Well- Yeah, sorry. 1:10:13 [laughs] The next one... I gotta get plugged in with the guys, I guess, but- Yeah... that sounds so cool. Mm-hmm. 1:10:19 Um, I, I'm just overjoyed that you have these amazing retreats that you can host, and you can moderate, and just do. And I- it's, it's so cool that you're able to do what you love, you know? Yeah. Right? 1:10:32 And for those who are not doing what they love and they want to be doing what they love, what are some advice or some suggestions on ways that they could do what they love similar to what you're doing? 1:10:43 Oh, I love that question because I think we, so many people- Hmm... are just, like, stuck in something that they actually despise. Mm-hmm. But they're doing it because it's paying the bills. Right. Right. 1:10:56 And first understanding what you think you would love, like, that's where you have to start, and that might mean taking a gr- a break and some space from what you're doing. Hmm. 1:11:06 Like, sometimes we just need that little bit of space to allow ourselves to, like, be with ourselves and, like, reflect on, like, what a- what actually do I want, right? Hmm. Um, but I love this idea of, like, 1:11:22 we can't make a change until we make a choice. So if we... And that s- might sound simple, and it, it, it is simple, but you have to make that choice. It's like you're sitting 1:11:37 in the driver's seat with the engine running, but until you type in that destination, the GPS isn't gonna know where to take you. And so many people sit there 1:11:48 with the engine running, wishing and hoping and thinking and praying for change, but they're not actually making the choice. They're not putting in- Hmm... that destination, right? And they spend years there. I know. 1:12:02 And then they're resentful. Mm-hmm. And then they're exhausted, and they don't know why, and it's because they're not stepping into their purpose. So you have to decide if you really want it and make that choice. Hmm. 1:12:13 Like, deciding is the first step. And then declare it. Start saying it out loud to the universe so that it's real. And then everything will just start falling into place magically [laughs] and it's... 1:12:28 It's that easy, Scarlett? Oh, my- It is... okay. Wow. It just- [laughs] Everyone just listen to Scarlett, people, seriously. [laughs] But there is a lot of magic in, like, actually showing up for yourself. Okay. 1:12:41 When you're showing the universe that you- Mm-hmm... actually want to do the thing, then the universe- Mm... starts supporting you. Right. It's, like, pretty amazing. 1:12:49 Like, opportunities start opening up, and you're like, "Oh, like, I quit that shitty job where they treat me like crap, and I hated it anyways, and now all of a sudden- Hmm... 1:12:59 like, the next day, this new dream job is showing up for me." Like, that kind of stuff is real, but you have to show that you want it first. Mm-hmm. 1:13:10 You have to declare it, and then you have to share it with everyone you know or even you don't know- Yeah... and get people to believe in what you believe. Mm-hmm. Yeah. Yeah. That's where it starts. I love that. 1:13:23 And, and when you said choice, the f- first word that came into my head when you said that was commitment. Mm-hmm. And I feel like a lot of people are afraid of committing. Yeah. 1:13:31 Committing to that choice, committing to what they actually wanna do because it scares them. Oh, yeah. It's the fear, right? Mm-hmm. You can forget everything and run, or you can face everything and rise. 1:13:43 And, like, if we don't choose and commit, and we're just saying, "Oh, y-..." There's a lot of people that do this. 1:13:52 Like, "Oh, maybe when I have a bit more money saved, I'll start doing this," or, "Maybe when I'm in better shape, I'll start doing this," or, "Maybe when my kids are grown, I'll start taking care of myself better." 1:14:05 Like, how about no more maybes and, like, just start? It doesn't have to be, like, a huge thing, but decide and start. Mm-hmm. And that's the first step. Mm-hmm. Commit. There we go Mm-hmm And that's the hardest part. 1:14:19 Mm-hmm. Starting. It is. But once you start, it becomes a lot easier. Yeah, it's like the snowball effect, right? Like it just- Mm-hmm... things just start adding, like good, in a good way. 1:14:31 Spiraling into control, I like to say. [laughs] I love that. Manifesting. Mm-hmm. It's powerful. It's a thing. Yeah. 1:14:38 I have a nephew who's 15, and every time I talk about manifestation he rolls his eyes and he's like, "It's not real." He's very science driven- Oh my gosh... 1:14:47 and he's like, "Ugh, manifestation is not real, Auntie Scarlett." [laughs] And I'm like, "Let's manifest it!" And I'm like driving him like, "Everybody imagine the parking space appearing in front of the building." 1:15:00 And he's like rolling his eyes. [laughs] Dude. And I do it extra just to bug him. [laughs] A- and did, did that parking spot appear- Every time... out of nowhere? Every time? Every time. Oh, wow. Yeah. 1:15:10 But he doesn't believe that's why. What? [laughs] Right? I, I'd be like, "Yeah, it's Scarlett every time. Trust Scarlett- Yeah... and then your life's gonna get much better." Yeah. Like, seriously. One day. 1:15:23 That's amazing. We can only, we can only worry about ourselves and- I know. I know Yeah Definitely. So, um, yeah. As we're winding down here, I know I said that already, but- [laughs]... this is just too good. 1:15:35 Uh, is there anything else you wanna share? Any other little nuggets of wisdom or just anything that you haven't touched on that you wanna share with everyone here, um, now is the time. 1:15:48 Um, I think that just, like, what you're doing, connecting with people like this is so valuable. I think people hearing, like, real conversations from other humans, we're all, like, very similar. 1:16:01 We're all going through something, right? We're all making decisions. Yeah. We all have stress. We all have things to celebrate, and, like, getting to hear other people's journeys is just so powerful. 1:16:11 I've found that it's helped me so much to listen to podcasts and other people's stories, so thank you for doing this work. 1:16:18 Um, I would just say, like, if you're not showing up for yourself, like, just start doing one thing small. Join a class once a week. Step out of your comfort zone or, um, start, yeah, building a little morning routine. 1:16:34 Or start noticing your breath and just do, take a baby step towards, uh, just connecting with yourself because that's how you can find your purpose and live in your joy. 1:16:45 And connection is so important, like, for the nervous system. If we, we need to be connected to ourselves, connected to other people, connected to the world in some way, like community, and to the universe. 1:17:01 And if we're lacking one of those, like, 1:17:04 if we live alone and we never see people, like, our nervous system is not gonna be doing well, and we will go into, like, dorsal vagal shutdown, which is like depression- Mm-hmm... or we'll be living in survival. 1:17:15 And so we wanna be in the ventral vagal state, which is that sweet spot where you feel safe and supported and connected. Mm-hmm. 1:17:23 And so find connection to yourself, to others, to the world, and to spirit, and things will feel a little bit more graceful and easy for you. Yeah. I absolutely love that. 1:17:37 Thank you so much for coming on 111 Pod, Scarlett. Um, where can people find you if they wanna contact you or reach out? Yeah. 1:17:44 I guess just go to my website, and if you go to my coaching website, scarlettcoaching.com, two Ts, scarlettcoaching.com, um, everything's kind of linked on there. 1:17:57 Um, if anyone is interested in finding out more about the facilitation certification, it's an eight-week program starting in October, and I have a free online mini master class session i- September 10th, and you can sign up on my website and join that just to get some more info. 1:18:18 Uh, but everything's on there, scarlettcoaching.com. Yeah. Awesome. Thank you again, Scarlett. This has been an amazing- Thank you... time with you You're amazing. [laughs] I appreciate that and- Love your energy... 1:18:29 thank- I'm trying. Trying my best. Actually, I don't try, I do, right? So I'm just doing it. Yeah. I'm just doing it. Yeah. And, um, we just keep it going, so appreciate you again, and we'll see you next time. Thank you. 1:18:41 Thank you. Bye. Bye. Hey, guys. I hope you enjoyed the episode. 1:18:47 If you wouldn't mind liking, subscribing, commenting, sharing, rating, reviewing, it would mean the world to me and Stella here if you did that, and it really would help support the show. 1:18:59 Thank you so much, and stay grateful. Right, Stella? Stay grateful? [laughs] [outro music]
